A Love that Heals: Letting Gods Love Give You Hope in Times of Grief

It was very sudden, being a car accident. Anyway, the knowing that you will never get to talk ever again ever. Knowing he will never come home and walk through the door ever aha is terrible. I have now started grieving for the next two closest people to me — my mom and my husband — even though there is not a single thing wrong with them, save for bad genetics. I have realized that anxiety is simply an impatient version of grief waiting for its cue to enter — and it is perpetually waiting in the wings for me. Usually at the same time. As an atheist with no children, I truly fear for what will become of me when the last two that I love the most are gone.

What do I do with me? I have no faith to hold me here. No children to be obligated to care for. The last two people keeping me tethered to this world will likely die before me. I am certain I will not be able to find joy without them here. I will only be a burden to anyone who is left. My mom just passed away almost 2 weeks ago. She was 57 and battled stage 4 metastatic melanoma for 9 years. Little did I know this was the last text my mom was going to send me. Crying in fact DOES come in waves and completely out of nowhere. I cried when I told her my goodbyes in the hospital, I cried when everyone said their goodbyes to her.

I cried at the viewing and funeral, very little. Now i catch myself crying very little and very randomly over the smallest things. I lost my mom on All my other siblings had the time to say their goodbyes and have their conversations but my niece and I were on duty. I made myself take a few moments alone to say my goodbyes but the other thing no one tells you is that the person you are caring for may become angry with their caregivers. Mom did and that could not be the furthest from who she was normally.

I had been her primary care giver for her 6 year cancer battle, and it was an honor to be by her side. Though the last 2 weeks were different brutal really. I relive that final 24 hours more than anyone knows. Not sure I will ever be able to let those go. Oh… Hospice… who knew how little help or guidance you really get from them. I sure as heck did not.

Family feuds— from what i know now are not uncommon but lord are they unnecessary and horrible. I lost my beloved husband. It comes out of no where. She found out May 10 four days after her birthday that she had pancreatic cancer that had spread to her liver. We were counting on chemo but she died the week she was supposed to start treatment.

She took a major turn for the worse mainly because of acute liver failure and lived for only six more days after going to the hospital. I talked to her a lot and made her as comfortable as possible while she could still tell me what she needed. Not being able to talk back and forth with her was particularly sad because we had wonderful, heartwarming conversations over the years.

Like the loved ones dirty socks still lying in their bedroom floor or whenever you see their favorite candy. The biggest surprise for me was the physical aches and pain. The physical sickness I feel from grieving. It like the flu almost. But last much longer. My mother has only been gone 2 months but the waves keep pounding me. Sometimes, without even realizing it, you not only mourn the loss of a person, but you mourn the loss of a life you thought you were going to have.

My mom died a few months ago. We were very close even though we had a difficult relationship. My whole body aches. I recently lost my husband of 10 years. He died of hypertension just 2 days in hospital. He died 15 June ,I am still in shock. He left me I was 9 months pregnant and was due the following week he died. I could not do body viewing and I did not go to bury him. I have recently been blessed with a baby boy and I have 2 beautiful girls.

T have lost my dad but death seem to be new. I have all the feelings and emotions you can think of,my world is upside down. This is also a very good post which I really enjoyed reading. It is not every day that I have the possibility to see something like this.. With havin so much content do you ever run into any problems of plagorism or copyright infringement? Do you know any methods to help prevent content from being stolen? I definitely love reading everything that is written on your site. Keep the tips coming. I wish I had known how physical grief could be. I thought I had some kind of disease until I figured out it was literally the weight of the grief I was carrying.

No one really understands how deeply we hurt for our loved ones, it makes you realize how alone you truly are. I watch her videos almost every day, I touch her on the screen, wanting to feel her soft skin and warm breathe on my face, her smell….. She passed on March 19, , I held her in my arms on the way to the hospital and kissed her and told her I how much she meant to me and to our other family members, she brought them up, she nutured them and helped to make them whole.

I told her that if she cannot breathe I will breathe for her. She is mine and I am hers and that will be forever. Such a great list. I really appreciate with this. I will must share it to others and also to my facebook page. Thanks fo rthe sharing such a informative article. I lost my brother in law, Chance, more of a big brother less than a month ago. We were very close. I never knew I was going to feel crazy when Chance died. I tune out the world and hear songs and his voice so clear like he is sitting right next to me.

I still send him messages telling him about my day and how his daughter is doing. I miss him and I will love him forever. I do wish I would have let him stay in my house where he would have been safe guilt. I told a close friend that I intended to create a page on instagram directed to other males that very close to their mothers.

Itreally a great and useful piece of info. I am satisfied that you shared this useful info with us. Please stay us up to date like this. The dream always finds a way to rear its ugly head and you grieve it all over again. In 17 years, through guilt of being alive, I have systematically lost everything my beautiful husband and I worked so hard for, that I now have nothing.

I ruined my relationship with my beautiful girls, and I am still so very lost. I wish my doctor had visited me after my husband died… or someone had put me somewhere for my own protection from myself, until I could cope. I still cry everyday with grief for jom. I lost my son on June 24, I was devastated to say the least. That scared me because at that time I was doing good just to breathe.

So maybe people should be careful on advice to a person who is in the beginning stages of grief. I was afraid that if I was never going to get better then I may have to be placed in an institution. I know now logically what people meant but at that time I was not thinking logically.

One day at a time and I manage to get out of bed, work and function. Just hold off on advice the first days afterwards. I lost my absent dad a few months ago. So when he died suddently I just feel like the restablishment of contact came too late, when things were just getting better he left this world. It feels like a cruel ending. She was very functional and we had a loving life. We had both acknowledged that I would outlive her, so should have been prepared?

No, sudden unexpected death of even a terminally ill person hurts terribly; maybe more so in the fact that we knew the end was nearer than we would have liked. People may mean well, but this is about YOU and what you need right now. It sounds like his toothbrush is important to leave where it is, so leave it, my dear. These responses really are as bad as we think they are. Let me assure you that there is nothing wrong with you at all, Dawn. Please find ways via the internet or other, to be with people who can support you, and listen instead of telling you what to do xxoo.

I am so sad for you that you believe you can do nothing about whatever wrongs you feel you may have done. I believe that you can do so, and I believe your wife already knows how much you love her, and the great sorrow you bear. John, have you heard anything about continuing bonds? While this is a problem, it also suggests a solution, as you can seek resolution through working to make amends to her, just as you would have in life.

He passed away suddenly at 53 and since then, I feel completely lost. He is the first thing I remember when I wake up, and the last thing before I fall asleep. I was crying all night and then I found this site accidentally. But I think the only thing that gets better with time is your emotional control in front of others. It still hurts so badly and you miss that person so much. English is not my first language, but I hope you will understand me and some could maybe find yourselves in my words and feelings. Suddenly losing a beloved has not only the grief but the shock too.

Losing my mom was an ongoing affair…years of sliding down the path of dementia. Outbursts, and her struggles to stay in control, could be intense, sometimes with her striking out. But there were times of exquisite sweetness; I slept with her several times, to keep her safe when my father was away. It always made her smile and the energy in our hearts would glow. I sang her Sufi chants several nights a week, while she was in bed at the nursing home in her finally year, readying for sleep.

These memories of loving more then, have sustained me in her loss. She is Always with me!

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For some of us, writing thank you notes and letters after a death and funeral or memorial event is part of the healing process. I wanted everyone to know how very much I and our son appreciated their caring thoughts and deeds. It is not always a cruel thing as stated in this list and is an incredibly personal decision whether to write them or not. As I read through these posts, my heart is broken for each one of you. Our grief is so individual and so real. My fiance, the love of my life, my soulmate passed away suddenly on March 22nd.

Like so many of you, we had so many beautiful memories and so many plans for the future. I find myself pretending to be okay. I go out to dinner with friends. I pretend that I am happy. I, too, have experienced this. I cling to the people who are there and who do their best to the best of their ability.

So now I sit and I wait and I fear for the future. I know that I will never have another, I know that I will never love the way I loved this man. My heart is broken. They do not know. How can one be strong when half of her heart is missing, one of her lungs is gone, half of her soul and spirit are gone… And the other half that remains is so deeply wounded. I do agree with all of the ideas you have presented in your post. They are really convincing and will certainly work. Still, the posts are too short for newbies.

Could you please extend them a bit from next time? Thanks for the post. She was not diagnosed until weeks before she died. Im a ONLY child and Her 2nd husband passed in of a stoke and we did not know. We thuoght it was just a flu since he had flu like symptoms. We missed the arm not being able to lift up. Im not even a Christian anymore and this person just keeps on saying this stuff and it does not help me. No it does not. I miss my mom everyday. Sometimes my days ate good. Mothers Day im with a friend and mother. And ppl expect you to be all gine and happy like nothing ever happened.

May be if that person lost their brst friend and mother abd was her catetaker of 2 lsst years…. I lost the love of my life on January 26, he had turned 55 on Jan The dearest kindest man I have ever known. I was married to a Monster for twenty years then alone for 13 years before finally agreeing to date him hesitation being my strong suit.

I had four years , one and and half married to the best man anywhere before god took him home. I am so thankful for the people I grew up with it Oregon who truely understand. I feel changed, older, and have missed her since the moment my dad called to tell me. But it still feels unfair and too soon. I want to talk to my friends about it, and I do to some extent, but the harder stuff.. I buried my best friend, soulmate, and husband of 28 years on March 5, He died two blocks from my worksite in a horrible car crash, coming to pick me up from work.

He was only I was not allowed to see his body until the funeral service; the funeral director and my father said there was too much damage, I would regret seeing him like that. My brother had the car towed away, our brand new sports car, and I never saw it. My dad and brother said it would be too traumatic. And everyone around me is pushing me to pack up his things.

I cried for hours after having to wash the glass he left on his nightstand because it was growing mold. Has anyone else gotten angry at platitudes well-meaning people spout? I visit the cemetery every day, and my brother told me I needed to stop doing that. Nobody understands the depths of my grief; he was the greatest thing that ever happened to me.

Will anything be right ever again? I wish someone had told me I would feel like a puzzle piece in the wrong puzzle. I also wish someone had warned me of this whole new culture of widowhood. Some wives act weird when I speak to to both wife and husband. I am thankful for this post and appreciate all of the comments.

They have helped me! I lost my Dad on 28 April I know he had been really ill but he seemed to be defying all medical people and just kept going. The next couple of weeks went by in a blur. When I finally got there I then became mediator between sisters and our mother who divorced Dad in I was always really close to Dad while my sister was closer to Mum I know they have always spent a lot of time together and I assume they still do. I still miss Dad every day even though when he was alive we could go for weeks without speaking at least he was there at the end of a phone.

I wish it was still that simple. My Mum had died at 32 with kidney disease…i was 9, my sister 2 and brother I became Mum…4 years later , living in a troubled N. We were rehoused about 3 miles away and I knew no one, Dad , bless him spent all his time working to keep us.. I wish that you could report spam comments. I enjoyed reading this list! Thank you for your time and effort you put into this!

Its something I have never experienced in my life before and certainly a life changing experience. My Mother died four months ago now and I miss her so terribly.

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Although she was old and her death was inevitable, the loss and grief goes deep into the core of ones soul. We just had the funeral for Daddy 1 week ago a Saturday- Feb 24 He was barely I am the oldest of the 3 children- My dad died unexpectedly while in the shower- he had a Tonic Clonic seizure.

Among some other pieces of advice I will mention: I was at my DDS when my grandma called and told me. I was just about to get work done and letting novacain set in.

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I was all alone, feeling judged and hyperventilating. I had to have my husband come get me. So then I had to start the planning of the funeral. I pretty much stayed awake from that Tuesday night til I crashed that Saturday evening. My Dad was my BBF. The first man who loved me, and adored me. We were so close that we would talk on the phone for hours times a week and constantly fb message. He ended up receiving over guests. He was much loved. He was a knockout-rockout musician of many instruments and sang better than any country singer, maybe only rivaling Garth Brooks.

And he could rock the house, impressing the most bitter critic doing Skynyrd lead vocals and electric guitar. Have barely cried since the funeral. But I know the thunder is rolling and the storm is due very soon. God bless each and every one of you. My husband died two years ago, it was his 38th bday.

It was ruptured brain anuerysm, i only had 9 hours with him at the hospital. I was just 29 back then. Two years later, hid clothes are still hanging by the closet, his bathroom toiletries are at pur cabinet, some of his things are still neatly packed just they way that he had left it. But most days are just too painful, i would talked to him inside the car and would visit his grave everyday. It feels like i will never ever stopped grieving, its like i always end up on the day that he died.

I lost my husband on He came in to my life 15 years ago after the trauma of an emotionally abusive first marriage and the subsequent parental alienation of my son towards me, fueled by lies and deceit. My second husband gave me love, comfort, and helped me renew my trust in others and rebuild my self-esteem. He had a stroke in bed next to me at 9: My grief counselor has become the most important person in my life.

I feel lost and untethered. I have functional days and very very bad days. My brother passed away in November of Sometimes I feel like I cannot think anymore…I wish I could talk to someone about how I feel but find it hard. I lost almost all of my family members after my mom passed. I have very few people left in my life. People I thought would be there with me and for me walked away.

I feel like I am a different person now because of my grief. Every day is a struggle. This list helped me realize that its ok to be the new me and that some days are going to be awful and that is also ok. My son had gotten a girlfriend at 14 and I remember my disappointment and the lectures about unprotected sex and how having children at an early age can halt your dreams. I actually woke with gratitude in my heart and on my lips. My heart and my stomach hurt so badly for weeks, and my only wish was to go be with him, in spite of having 4 more beautiful, deeply loved children.

I do believe I will get on with life, and that there is more joy to be had. God bless us all who love — and who grieve — so deeply. The Lord is close to the broken hearted. You should add to the list the fact that it is common for all of your friends and family to ignore you when you are grieving, expect you to get over it soon, and will never be there for you. Seriously, the silence is so much more painful than the loss. God this is the truth. Do not be surprised if in the period before, and for a while after, the death you find yourself saying and doing things which are very unusual for you and which you later regret.

This is your sub- conscious going haywire whilst it tries to adjust to the new circumstances in which it finds itself. It is not you. Eventually you will return to something like normal but it will be a new normal. You will truly be a different person — kinder, gentler, warmer and more understanding with other people.

In my own case I even smile at babies and often get a smile back — a wonderful experience. I like to think that the spirit that was once my wife is now part of me. Two souls in one body is a comforting thought as I face the future alone. The depth of your grief cannot be measured in proportion to your relationship to the one you lost…mother, father, sister, brother, friend, spouse, or any other loss.

You will grieve more for some losses than for others, and for different reasons. I lost my sister recently, suddenly. She had a stroke while we were walking down the street. No health issues, no warning. How do you keep going with half a self? So many people grieving on here.

My mother was killed by hospital negligence. My daughter was almost killed by hospital negligence. I watched them both. This is turning on my family. I do not want the company of anybody. I am strung out. My nerves are shattered. I have to look after a lot of people. People look to me, they depend on me. I will not go for counselling. One size fits all, a bloody insult. I will not go to the doctor and take his knockout tablets. They are an uncaring breed. My thoughts are more and more in the bad times. Your guts are knotted and your head is screaming.

You are pleasant with people. I could write forever. There is more and more and more. Why is it up to me? I just want to be left alone — to wallow. What does anybody know? They are not me. If they could all be just fine, because I worry, but just leave me alone. I lost my home and business in hurricane Irma in September. My mother died unexpectedly 2 weeks ago. We suspect medical malpractice, but await the autopsy report. My invalid father will likely have to go to a nursing home, which breaks my heart, as Mom cared so lovingly for him in their home.

Your words express my feelings exactly. I thought I was doing quite well with my material losses, after all, things can be replaced. I believe I will get through this, but right now it seems utterly insurmountable. Thank you for expressing so accurately what I am feeling.

VERY suddenly and unexpectedly. One minute talking and 15 minutes later I went to check on him outside and found him. He was only 39 years old, and was very active and healthy. We had no clue that his asthma was even close to as serious as it turned out. I am even still waiting for his ashes to arrive there was a mix up with the address. And am also still waiting to be able to retrieve his personal effects.

And every time I wake up I have to remind myself that it happened. I find myself waiting for him to come walking through the door several times during the day and night. And I am stuck, I have a hard time even leaving our bed because I feel like he is with me there.

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Any advice on how to begin even talking the smallest steps in beginning the process of grieving? I am so lost, and unsure, seems like I am unable to take even baby steps without him. The heartbreak and the pain never goes away, you just eventually find a way to live with it, but it takes a long long time. Allow yourself the time and the ocean of tears that comes with the loss, these do let you start to heal even although it does not feel like it.

They come back again and again and each time they are another step in the grief process. But you can only see that when looking back, I personally have found that it never ends, it is always there. For me time does not heal, it just lets me find a way to live with the loss. I have also learned that asking for help to cope can be very valuable.

Not just from the help received but the fact that you reach a stage of even able to ask for help is another step to coping. He was only 36 and it was the day before my 33rd birthday. He was healthy and doing great. We were about to move into the next chapter of our life together and had started talking about trying for a baby. I woke up very early in the morning to find him getting ready to go have coffee with a friend.

He told me he loved me, kissed me, and told me to go back to sleep. I remember going back to sleep thinking that when I woke up again he would be back from his visit with his friend and we could start our day together. I woke up to my cat jumping on me trying to wake me up and I thought he wanted food but he was jumping on me for a different reason. I found Mike only if you feed away for me and he was gone. He had faulty heart valve. No one should have to face this kind of torture and you said that you felt so alone.

I was surrounded with people but felt completely alone in my own way. That of course only made things worse. I wish that there was something I could say or some advice I could give you to make the pain go away. Forging a new path, one that is different from the path we had planned together has been necessary but excruciatingly painful. The only thing that has gotten me through is knowing with all my heart in some way, he is still here with me.

If you are open to it, I promise you that your partner is with you too. I too lost my life partner. We were together 12 years, raising 3 children, and we had so many dreams and plans.

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Look at some of the remarkable and comforting things that have occurred:. While you may never know all the details concerning why your loved one died Deuteronomy Your suffering only makes sense in the context of that story. You have a relationship with the God of all comfort: Believing in Christ for the forgiveness of sins and the promise of eternal life in Him is essential to your healing. It allows you to have a personal relationship with the God of all comfort. God loved you enough to go through the death of His Son for you.

He is familiar with your suffering and will walk with you through the toughest days of your grief journey, offering comfort for today and hope for the future. You have reason for hope: Jesus promised to gather all who trusted Him for salvation into an eternal paradise. There will be no more tears, suffering, or death in that place. Rest your hope on this unshakable promise. Doing so will transform the way you grieve. God will use your suffering for good: God promises to use all your experiences good and bad to help you become more like His Son Romans 8: As you grow in your understanding of how wonderful Jesus is, this promise will become increasingly attractive and precious to you.

Your sins were forgiven: You no longer have to fear being judged by God Romans 8: And no matter how intense and painful your grief becomes, you can always take solace in the fact that God has lovingly and generously addressed your most pressing need—your need for forgiveness. You received the gift of eternal life: While we will all experience physical death, Jesus promised that those who believe in Him will never cease to exist.

For you have inherited what Jesus calls eternal life John 3: And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. He washed away our sins, giving us a new birth and new life Because of his grace he declared us righteous and gave us confidence that we will inherit eternal life. Turning control of your life over to Jesus is only the first step in an exciting relationship with God. It was so hard and heartbreaking. The way his eyes looked into mine I feel like such a letdown to him because he had always been able to count on me before.

He lived with daddy and visited mommy 1, miles away. Three or four times before he found what he wanted. Nineteen years ago we lost another son in a horrific accident. My sons already suffered that. Jason named his son after his brother Freddy. There were no steps in our family. I want him, I need him. He was d wonderful, he was a handful. My greatest regret is not praising him enough for being such a great single father.

Nineteen years we buried Freddy and we have never really recovered. But I will, I have no choice. His grown daughters do need me when they hurt. And I pray we will be allowed to have Freddy visit all of us here. They lived together like two tight partners. I just need to get month old thank you cards finished to our overwhelmingly loving community. Everyone loves Jason and Freddy. I just need more than tears and breakdowns.

I need to cry and son scream and pray. My grown son died 3 months ago, he would be 43 today. I lost my cherished husband May 30, after knowing each other for almost 60 years. That was still not enough time. He took a part of my heart with him and I hope it keeps him at peace finally. Cancer took him away….

Thanks for these quotes. Sorry on the loss of your dad and all the ways you wish it was different,. Thank you for the quotes — My father died this morning and we were estranged on and off for years. He was not a nice person — to anyone and , as I explained to my 7 year old — he did not want to be a daddy.

Which makes it harder since my husband has terminal cancer. Still grieving what I wished my father could have been and grieving in advance for my daughter who will lose her daddy in the near future. My father drank himself to death — and my husband is fighting every day to stay here…. Thank you for the quotes. My husband died on May 27, I miss him so. We still made each other laugh after 16 plus years of marriage. We were often thinking about the same things. Even though he had ALS and we knew he did not have much time. His death was sudden. I felt like I was awake and in a nightmare.

I was totally unprepared for his death. What brings me comfort is knowing I was able to care for him at home. He wanted to stay home. Knowing he is not suffering helps me get through the day. Knowing my husband would not want me to let my grief consume me helps and prayer throughout the day. Cassie, I always thought we would get a few more vacations in before one of us had to go first.

I miss you every day, almost every minute. I had forgotten how much a person can cry. You were and always will be my most loved sister.

You are gone for now but not forever. Enjoy your blessed life living with our Jesus. I love,love love you. Have lost a great Friend who is so dear to my heart,Henrietta Tetteh, I love you though we were not Kent to be together,but I know you are resting in the blossom of the Almighty God. But there is no such man; for, brother, men Can counsel and speak comfort to that grief Which they themselves not feel; but, tasting it, 25 Their counsel turns to passion, which before Would give preceptial medicine to rage, Fetter strong madness in a silken thread, Charm ache with air and agony with words.

Therefore give me no counsel: My griefs cry louder than advertisement. Therein do men from children nothing differ. I pray thee, peace! I will be flesh and blood; For there was never yet philosopher That could endure the toothache patiently,. My husband died very suddenly on our honeymoon 11 months ago We had both been married before but had been together for 19 years and our wedding was the happiest day of my life! He died 3 weeks and 1 day after our wedding and I miss him so much.

It would have been our 1st anniversay in 2 weeks! He was my rock and the love of my life and I so need him to help me deal with the pain. He always sorted everything!! I do get comfort from reading of others in the same position and I wish comfort and happiness eventually for the future to us all! I lost my mom 7 years ago.. Guilt for not doing anything when she was sad and lonely.

My grief is almost 4 months old and it still feels like yesterday. I have never known sadness like this. I lost the man I love. He came into my life 4 years after I separated from and divorced my husband of 32 years. He made me laugh! I miss him so much and I carry so much guilt. Guilt for not saying I love you the night before he died. I love him and I miss him so much.

The grief hurts so badly. I can so relate to you, Katy. I lost my Ben 6 months ago. We were both widowed and our first marriages were not very happy ones. Ben and I were together seven years and married four of those years. We were define soul mates. I was married to my wonderful husband for 53 years, he was such a caring man.

The reverend becomes livid with anger and delivers a sermon that offends people in the town. I just asked myself one today. I too am crying, because so many of these are how I feel. Losing the only person that truly loved me has been difficult beyond measure. I can understand what you are saying as I too suddenly lost my husband September 4th My 4 children and I are going through hell. One of my 8 yr old sons found him. I find every single day like groundhog day. Gutted feeling all the time. We function but I am unable to enjoy anything. Our hearts are broken…. The one person who could help me through grief was the one who was gone.

Grieving is such a personal space. What helps one may not help another. Sometimes silence and recogntion that grief is a very hard travail are better than any quote or words. Let the person who is grieving tell her story. Thank you Dee Randolph. My beloved nephew died this week and the pain is very fresh. I feel grief but his father and mother have oceans upon oceans of grief. Thank you for sharing your story. I will keep your words in mind as we gather to mourn my nephew and comfort my brother and his family.

I am so sorry for your loss. Khalil Gibran kind of says it all for me. I am so very sorry for your loss. I do hope that one day you will find comfort and strength through other people who have been through a similar loss. Grief has no end …. It changes over time but does not end. I lost my husband from a mountain accident last May — he fell down a steep slope, in the snow. Last week he was holding me and I started crying. I doubted he could understand me.

My pain is so deep, can it be shared by somebody who never met my husband? Thanks so much for your posts. Hello I read your post and it touched me. I volunteer at a bereavement center, and I have have worked with a widows group, the one thing they all had in common was they felt like they were cursed.

What you are feeling is the grieving process and you should never deny yourself any part of the process. It sounds like you have found yourself a good man. Try not to look at it as replacing your husband but more like another chapter in your life. You have plenty of room in your heart to love the one you lost and the one you found. I am so sorry for your loss, your post actually made me cry more than these quotes did, I hope you could open your heart to the man you referred to in your post.

I am starting to understand loss but only slowly, my father is dying, last he had heard his doctor said his kidneys were only at seven percent function, if I were older I could donate my kidney and help. I am so sorry for what happened to your husband, thank you for being brave enough to share your story.

The man I was referring to is still around and still in love with me but I am not fully ready yet, still need a lot of time on my own or with friends, trying to sort my internal mess out. Yes lots of feelings can co-exist, some time I even feel I am just free! Then the loneliness and sadness reappear. I learned a lot during this process, I learned we are all grievers and all coping. I learned to catch any ray of light. I wish Peace to you and your father. Your email address will not be published.

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