Songs of Attraction

Relationships are all about chemistry, and physical appearance is only one ingredient. Don't overthink that just because he liked one type of girl in the past that that's the only type of girl he'd be attracted to. I like a guy who makes me laugh out loud. Sometimes I cry with laughter. We have long conversations even with his friends around. Does he like me? Do I pursue my feelings or just walk away?

When you initially agreed to this relationship, you probably didn't expect to develop an emotional attachment to the person you were sleeping with. You simply wanted to use one another for convenient, no-strings-attached sex. Sex, however, is an intimate act that always has some strings attached. While it's not impossible for a friends with benefits relationship to transition into a love relationship, communication regarding changing expectations and feelings is essential. You've become emotionally attached, and it seems like he has become either bored or wary of your attachment.

It's clear that you've exchanged benefits -- the car for sex -- but are you sure there's any friendship left? From what you describe, there's little emotionality between the two of you. You deserve someone who will cherish and respect you. Put a halt to the sexual part of the relationship and see if he's still interested in the friendship. That'll tell you everything you need to know. Better verbal communication is needed to supplement the physical communication that's been going on. I started talking to this guy because he would flirt with me frequently, and ask me questions about myself trying to get know me.

One day I added him on Facebook, and the next day he added me on Snapchat, then messaged me. We had been talking for days, but it turns out he had a girlfriend! I kinda like him, but I know that I shouldn't since he's not available. I assume there was flirtation involved in your talking for several days. During that several days he had a moral obligation to mention that he had a girlfriend.

Instead he behaved like a player. What he did was cheat on his girlfriend, and he made you his unwitting accomplice to it. That was not your fault. You deserve the full love and attention of a guy rather than sloppy seconds. People teach others how they want to be treated. Also, always be sure to check relationship status on Facebook and other social media platforms.

You might have already done that. Good luck to you. How can I tell if a guy is into me? He keeps reminding me of the day when we went to the beach with a group of friends. We both still laugh about it. You ask a good question. I recall when my daughter was beginning high school, running on the cross country team. A cute guy would slow down while running so he could talk to her, and she didn't know why he was doing that so she would run faster to get away from him. I had to explain to her that he was trying to flirt. Now we laugh about it, but she was puzzled at the time.

Your guy is probably interested but may not know where to take it next. Here are some signs that a guy is interested in you:. I'd suggest additional group outings with friends. Watch the signs above and maybe have a female friend look for the signs, too. That should tell you what you need to know! There's a girl in my school that I love but we've only talked a couple of times. I see her stare at me all the time, and when I look at her she looks away. Her group of friends and her look at me smiling.

We have a lot of similar interests. She's single, but I'm too shy. I like this guy and he likes me. However, when he's around his friends he says he doesn't like me and he avoids conversation. Today, I was crying and he asked me what was wrong. I am confused and don't know if he likes me or not. I like a guy at school. My friends know I like him and he has a girlfriend. I want to tell him that I like him, but I'm too shy.

My crush knows I like someone else and I know who he likes. One day I had feelings for him and I asked my friend to ask him what he thinks about me. Now he stares and smiles at me. Sign in or sign up and post using a HubPages Network account. Comments are not for promoting your articles or other sites. He sounds like a guy with a real sense of humor on top of everything else you find good about him. It's certainly not too early to 'fess up about how you feel about him.

Why wait until after Christmas Break? The holidays have a way of softening people's emotional defenses so they share what's on their minds. After the start of the new year, people tend to shift their priorities from interpersonal relationships to personal success, so don't wait. Perhaps consider sending him a funny e-card such as the ones on JibJab with a personalized message that shares your feelings.

Maybe use the words that the card is funny but one thing that is "no joke" is the way you feel about him then describe. That should start the conversation at least. Your goals should be to get the information out there in the open between you, to see what he's feeling towards you, and to build an ongoing conversation while you're apart. Sometimes people who are shy or reluctant can be more open about their feelings when it's not face-to-face, and the fact that you are physically separated works to your advantage here. Don't be afraid to take a chance. If he doesn't share the same feelings, it's okay.

You will have time to readjust without experiencing too much awkwardness regarding your friendship. The next big chance is leading up to Valentine's Day but don't wait! You've liked him for awhile. So a couple weeks ago, I was getting out of my car to walk into work. I had to cross the street and after walking on the sidewalk for a bit I hear someone shout while running at me, "Have you heard of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ?! He really got me good, we both just had a good laugh about it after I got over being shocked and chatted a little bit before I went into work.

But anyways, besides that incident, we had not really seen each other much or gotten to talk due to the semester ending and finals, but since we both finished our finals yesterday, we did meet for dinner this evening and he introduced me to two of his closest friends one of them I knew of because we have the same major, but I didn't actually know-know him. They both seemed really nice and cool and we all had a good time talking. I was thinking while I'm home for Christmas break I might try to get him a small gift I was thinking possibly something souvenir-like from my hometown , it was my friend's idea.

Yeah I still don't actually know if he likes me back, like my gut tells me that there could be a chance, I just don't want to jump to conclusions yet I was thinking that maybe its coming close to the time of just telling him, not directly after the next semester starts but maybe a few weeks in. Do you think it would be too soon? By the way, I seriously appreciate your advice and input. I remember when I first posted on this page about my old crush, not completely knowing if you'd reply or not, so yeah I totally appreciate you. It's the honorable thing to do to follow your parents' wishes at this point in your lives especially if they feel very strongly.

They probably understand your maturity levels and emotions development best. As an alternative to dating at this point, perhaps consider requesting permission for one or more of the following if your parents are open:. When my daughter was a ninth grader, the parents of one of the guys she went out with consistently sent the guy's little brother along everywhere they went.

The kid brother was supposed to be the parents' "spy" but for him, it beat not being able to go. There are creative solutions for your dilemma if you work constructively with your parents. In the meantime, continue to be open and honest with your crush about how you feel about him. Whether you express how much you value him and your special relationship via playlists, art, poetry, or conversations, this is a special time in your life. Don't be in too big of a hurry to grow up. It goes by fast! Best of luck to you! We met four years ago during math trainings and started talking more.

He started hanging out with me and my best friends about two years ago and quickly became one of my closest friends. We have shared so many moments together. We have so many things in common as well. He has a beautiful soul, and will protect his friends any time. He has beautiful chocolate eyes and soft auburn hair. He liked a couple of girls before, and now he likes me.

The thing is, we both know we like each other. Hope you can give me some advice for that. Crushing - Attraction is not all about looks. It's about trust, personality, shared connections, humor, listening, and so much more. I think you understand that. He obviously likes you as much as you like him. Maybe you both should take a chance on one another? It's great when you can find someone you can trust these days. Trust your heart and how someone treats you and makes you feel rather than your eyes. My crush is rlly funny. He always finds time to talk to me and we're really good friends.

He knows about things that happen to me that no one else does, and I trust him and i think he trusts me just as much. I'm not even rlly sure why i like him because hes not the cutest person i can find, but theres just something Eva - Thanks for the recommendation.

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It's a very sweet song. I put it on the playlist. I hadn't heard that one before. Have a Happy Thanksgiving! Taylor - During class changes, you can at least make eye contact, smile, and try to say hi or a few words as much as class changes will permit. Or you could always go old school and write him a note, passing it to him during class change with a smile. Eudora Yao - Aww, this certainly sounds like good news. Thank you for the update! Wishing you all the best in your sweet romance with Mr. I have a crush on this one guy that used to like me.

We only see each other during class switches and when there is a lot of people around. Nithya - I appreciate your stopping by. Hope you are doing well. Have a great weekend. A great list of songs, have heard some of them. Hats off to you for putting together this list. James - I'm sure you're a better man for staying in that lit class, no matter the motivation!

This hub made me think of a crush like experience from some years back. I say crush like because it wasn't a crush as your hub describes. However, I was smitten more like a lust at first sight. During my first week at the University of Iowa, classes began on Wednesday. Having studied my schedule, I noticed that if I dropped my literature class, I would still have a full load thus insuring continued eligibility for my guaranteed student loan and leave my Fridays class free.

So, the plan on Friday was to attend class and promptly get the teacher's signature and say adios to lit class. I go to the English Philosiphy Building and head towards the classroom. But upon reaching the classroom, I saw the teacher and stopped in my tracks. Upon seeing her the teacher I immediately changed my mind.

I was struck by the vision before my eyes. I stayed in her class and I believe my grade was a "B" for that course. Eudora Yao - Hooray! You're the young woman who ran into romantic Mr. Snuggles who kept saying you were cute, right!? Sounds like a really good start. So glad this is progressing nicely. He sounds like a decent young man, and I hope that there is something genuine there between you. I wish you luck! A big high five from me to you from across the Internet! Feel free to come back and update us later! He asked me to dinner: Astrid - Your comment was inadvertently marked as spam so I am just seeing it tonight, but congratulations!

This relationship you have with this guy seems like a mutual interest! I think you're making great progress. Even if this doesn't work out, look at it as terrific practice for the future. I'm so proud of you! Just an update, I feel like things are continuing to get easier for me and I'm starting to raise my propinquity with my crush! We've been messaging most of the days this week and it is not always me initiating conversation: D and we've actually hung out twice as well! Today we went to a raid its an in-game event I guess you could call it ; he messaged me late morning asking if I knew if there were any raids going on and there happened to be one that people were gathering for within half an hour of after I received his message.

I told him about it and asked if he wanted to go and he said yes and asked me if he could ride with me again. And so we went to it and we got to talk quite a lot again. I actually got to talk about some stuff about me like he asked me about what I want to do after graduation, he told me about how his mom wants him to do a masters but he doesn't really want to. It was so cute, when he saw a nice car I really know nothing about cars so I don't remember what it was , he started talking about it; I was listening intently and then at some point he stopped himself and was like "I'm sorry if this is boring you, I just really like cars" and I smiled and said something like "No, its okay, I think its really cool that you are into cars.

Also, he said that a conversation he had with a friend the other day reminded him of something I had said when we hung out on Sunday. Lastly, I had my music playing on shuffle and the theme song of one of my favorite animes came on and he showed curiosity about it he doesn't know much about anime so I ended up telling him about it and he seemed to take interest in the plot I'm thinking possibly later on I can invite him to watch it with me if things continue to go well like this.

I still want to do the coffee thing too, I just have not found the right time yet to ask yet. I've honestly never felt this comfortable talking to a guy who I am romantically interested in before and its a great feeling. Astrid - He's definitely interested based on what you're telling me. He flirted with you, paid for your Taco Bell meal, shared information about his family and hometown, and showed vulnerability regarding his Southern accent. Being a Southerner myself who has lived and traveled extensively around the country, the accent can be an issue, as non-Southerners often assume you're not smart based on a Southern drawl and may make fun of it right to your face.

Emphasize, for example, that you like it because it's him--flirt back! As far as next steps, if you don't want to wait for the next group hangout, why not text or contact him through social media and get more frequent conversation going? Be sure to share reciprocal information about yourself, your hometown, your interests, and ask questions as the conversation flows. That might lend to you hanging onto his arm during the the haunted house whether you actually "need" to or not. I'm so pleased your life is progressing like this and wish you the best with this apparently charming young man.

My experience is that Southern men can be but aren't always much more mannered, so be observant if he goes to open doors for you or pull out your chair. And in case he's a country music fan, definitely be ready for that. Know that it's very offputting for someone to hate country music if you've grown up with it and especially if they don't really know what modern country music is like these days. Some of it could pass for rock or alternative rock. So I actually worked up the courage to message my crush and asked him if he wanted to join me and a group of some other Pokemon Go players I know.

We went out today and I think things went really well. I didn't get too nervous, and I was able to talk to him comfortably; I mean I think it helped that we were hanging out in a group but it's definitely a start. And I did have some 1 on 1 time with him because we went in the same car I drove in the morning, but when we did head back to the university to get some stuff and we went in his car when we met back up with the group later.

We did talk quite a lot and I did learn a lot about him. He was telling me a lot about his family and his hometown and some various other things about him and he also asked me some things about me. Based on what I observed we sort of have similar personalities like quiet, laid back etc. And well this one small instance I mean it could be nothing but I feel like he might have been flirting a little, but I'm not sure , well there was a point where we all stopped at this one place to sit down for a bit and everyone was sort of having their own conversations amongst the group and we were sitting next to each other and well I was looking down at my phone and then he randomly started tapping on my screen and playfully said something like "oh is that a touch screen?

And when we were walking back I casually asked if he wanted to get food on the way back and we picked up some taco bell. I did pull out my wallet intending to pay for myself, but when we got there he asked me what I wanted and said that he would pay for it. Also at the drive through there was kind of a long wait and we were talking some more and he asked me if he sounded too southern he is from the south when he talks and I told him no, just sometimes like when he said thank you to the lady at the drive through, it sounded like "thank ya" and then he was telling me about some words that most of the time come out southern, like the word "peaches".

I said it, then he said it again and I laughed a little bit and then he got a little defensive asking if he was saying it wrong and then I was like no I can just hear a bit of the twang when you say it and we both laughed. So yeah that all happened. Everything about our conversations just felt so natural and not awkward or forced.

He also said to let him know when we'd be meeting up again and he thanked me for inviting him. What do you think? I realize it is early on, but do you think there may be something there like there's a chance I may be getting somewhere with this? Any tips on what to try to do next in addition to inviting him to our next hangout? Shannon - Thank you for those two great additions! I get some sweet comments and questions on this one. Reminds me of when I was a teen.

Well, you know me and country music often go hand in hand. Usually, the first songs that come to my mind for your playlists are country. So here's an old school song from the 90s. Remember Lila McCann's "Crush" song? I didn't see it on your list.

91 Songs About Crushes and Crushing on Someone

It's the first one I thought of this time. Oh, and "As If" by Sara Evans may fit your list. I think it does, anyway. This is a fun list, by the way. Jenna - It seems like you do have a lot in common, including this young woman. IF you're going to caution him about this young woman, I would be candid instead of tossing little hints. Some people don't get hints at all. Perhaps give him some level of choice in the matter by asking him a question along the lines of, "Can I speak openly and honestly about my reaction to you liking Jane?

His judgment about this girl will tell you whether he's worthy of continuing to admire. Acul - Since you know she likes someone else, just ignore the awkwardness and be her friend, just as you are friends with others. Smile, use compliments, make her laugh, ask her questions so that she talks to you about herself.

The more familiar one gets with another person, the more that awkwardness tends to go away. Even if you never end up to be more than just friends, we can never have too many friends, right? Great social skills is a lifelong benefit, so practice making people feel comfortable in awkward situations.

I like a girl in my class but she likes someone else so I started to get her phone number and now I think she feels a little bit awkward around me now. If you don't, your behavior could be perceived as stalker-like and that would prevent you from future relationships that might be reciprocal. We've all been rejected, and it hurts. Just work on loving yourself. Some day the right relationship will come along. Cj - What kind of person has to think that much about a date? As my teen daughter says, "It's not that deep! You didn't ask him to marry you. You either caught him off guard and he didn't know how to turn you down, he's got a very packed social calendar or he's already dating someone he likes but they're not quite committed yet and he doesn't want to mess it up.

Or, Cj, if you are also male and he is not out, he may legitimately have something to think about. I could understand that better, but hopefully, he'll be candid with you. As far as your request for songs related to this situation, here are a few listed below:. Gabriel - If she recently broke up with someone, there may be trust issues as well as an adjustment mourning period.

She did you BOTH a favor by being candid, so don't assume that she's testing your patience or playing games. It would've been worse to have started dating and then found out she had unresolved feelings for her ex, right? Let her work it out on her own, then start dating when she's ready. In the meantime, work on being her friend. Develop a history together even if it's not dating yet. Learn more about each other, hang out with her both alone and in groups but no hand holding, etc. Just give her a little space. If she told you she has the same feelings for you, take her at her word.

Make it clear to her that you'll be a friend first and you're hanging out as friends. After a couple months check back in with her to see how she's doing emotionally and see if she's ready to go out on a real date. There's this certain girl in my neighborhood, didn't have enough courage to ask her out but I did eventually. She told me she's got the same feelings for me but can't dive into another relationship as she recently just broke up.

Now she's asking if I could wait a little while. I don't know if she's putting my patience up for a test or she just doesn't want me to feel bad. Now I'm real confused, don't know what to do. Give yourself a little more credit for being awesome. You may be that quiet girl who just doesn't fit into the crowd of "cool kids"--who decides they're cool anyhow?

You'd be surprised how many of those cool kids think that they, too, are socially awkward, BTW. Start with checking in once a week or so, then go more frequent if he gives you more than a courtesy response. See if he'll engage more with you over social media or text. Talk on the phone or FaceTime. See if he'll hang on more with you.

It's best to hang out one-on-one rather than in a group so you can really get to know one another. Share more about yourself and worry less about impressing him. Discover what you have in common -- background, beliefs, preferences, habits. Discuss and debate your differences. Sometimes the best way to do this is by discussing current events!

Ask him random questions, sometimes off the wall or funny ones to get him to open up. Be prepared to answer them yourself. Talk about childhood memories that made you who you are, what you want in life, and the big things that matter to you. The important thing is to keep talking.

Generate opportunities for interaction on social media and especially in person. Tell him he was fun to hang out with and you want to know him better. That's blunt and honest. I know the stakes seem high, somewhere in there is a confident young woman. If he doesn't return your feelings, that's okay. There are plenty of guys out there. View this as social skills practice in getting what you want. Wishing you all the best. About my crush huh? He's a year older than me and he's the type guy I'd think is "out of my league" sadly.

Him and I used to go to school together, until he left around a year ago, leaving me with the hope of seeing him again one day. As stated before, I do tend to think I'm out of his league though now. He's the type of guy to hang out with all the cool kids and get along so well and be so loyal and kind. Me on the other hand, I'm socially awkward and tend to think I'm boring to people even when they say I'm not.

But when we're together I feel amazing. We have the best vibes and make each other laugh for hours and have a blast! I don't know how to talk to him though. I don't like hinting that I have these feelings for him when I obviously prolong our conversations because I feel like they'll soon become shorter and shorter if they become clear.

I really just don't want to bother him, but then my heart aches the longer I avoid talking to him because I don't know how to anymore. I'd appreciate some advice or help! Confused Girl - If you have a crush on your ex, consider whether anything has really changed or you're just in love with the idea of who you wished he was. After all, if you didn't talk that much how much do you really know about him other than surface stuff?

Do you talk now? You must've broken up for a good reason -- probably lack of common interests and an emotional connection. Physical attraction can only take you so so far. If you have a mutual spark in which you share conversation, an attraction, respect for one another, and mutual interests, take it to the next level. If not, go on to the next guy. Your ex isn't the only one out there, and it's common to look back sometimes with a tinge of regret.

So I have a crush on my ex. Astrid - Good to hear back from you. It's wonderful that your new interest is approachable and you have connections who also know him. Here are a couple ideas to help get closer to him. Think about the goal at this point as being to hang out together or go get coffee, lunch, or ice cream together. Do you want to go celebrate with some ice cream? Even if he's not there, leave a brief note on his door or tell his roommate to tell him that you came by. I did have two brief conversations with him on messenger. He also happens to live in the apartment next to another friend of mine who also has some classes with him.

So i have a a crush on this guy at work. I added him on messenger. Fortunately he accepted me. My sister, whos quite stupid sent a kissing emoji.

Take it slow and be happy. The girl who - Telling him is premature at this point. You were friends for a week then he became distant. Perhaps he moved on or got distracted by someone else. Try to rekindle the friendship and see if the spark is still there. I really like this boy and in the beginning of the year he would t stop watching me so I went up and takes to him we were friends for like a week and we would sit together in class and at lunch and then he got really distant and I kinda miss him and do t k ow what to do.

Should I tell him or just try and become friends with him again?? A - A must be for Awesome! First, it's absolutely okay to be a smart, nerdy, shy girl who is most likely to succeed. Embrace who you are! Second, since you're in your senior year, please don't waste time by just pining away for him, never taking a chance, and always wondering "what if? Everyone experiences rejection from time to time and it really is okay if that happens. What's worse than rejection is never taking the chance and finding out.

You don't have to express undying love for him. Just flirt a little and see how he responds. Here are a couple of simple but effective ideas to get you started. Start smiling directly at him, saying hello or good morning and use his name , tilting your head, and making direct eye contact. Bring Lifesavers, Tic-Tacs, gum if allowed or whatever to class and offer him one. Compliment him and ask him questions about himself such as what he did this past weekend that's tell you more about if there's another girl in the picture.

You can also share information about yourself. Tell him that you go his games or you wanted to come up to him after the game last Friday but you're shy and chickened out. That's being honest, and since he's quiet he'll appreciate that. I hope you take a chance. Someone WILL appreciate you for being who you are.

So I really like this guy in one of my classes. We only met 2 months ago and we barely talk but hes the best guy I've ever met. The only problems are that hes kinda quiet, a year younger than me and im a senior so that wont last , and a football player. Everyone kinda thinks I'm just a nerdy girl who studies all day bc I won most likely to succeed but I'm really not like that. I've heard from other people that he might be talking to this other girl. But I'm not sure.

I go to all his games and I'm always scared to talk to him after. I've gotten rejected before and since I sit next to him if he rejects me it'll be really awkward. I don't want to make you repeat yourself. You don't have to respond it just feels good to get this off my chest. Rather than repeating myself here, why not take a look at some of those to get some ideas? Be sure to click on the "see more" at the bottom for the entire list of Questions that readers have posed. In brief, it's already been 4 years.

Don't let more time slip away. Even if it's a negative answer, knowing is better than not knowing! NE - Thank you for that song suggestion! I have added it to the playlist. Have a wonderful week ahead. Great list, a lot of notable songs. Check out Westlife's "Obvious", it's one of my go to songs. I had Madonna at 59 but added some of the others. You're great with this! Jake - I'm glad you enjoyed this. I added your suggested song to my playlist about heartbreaks and breakups. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I am very nostalgic reading your article; great job.

My head might as well be Little Karachi Most my crushes being from Karachi, Pakistan However, my crush songs are metal and hardcore. Maddy McPatty - You seemed to have learned this bit of information about your crush allegedly accusing you of making him fail his exams from an unreliable source. Unless you hear it from him forget that you heard it. You could always ask him directly. Now that he knows you like him--think of your former BFF's tattling as doing the hard part for you by letting him know--you need to see whether he returns your interest.

If not, that's fine, but don't let rumors concern you. Also be alert that people do surround themselves with others who are similar. Thus, be open to the possibility that he may not be worth your trouble. Cute doesn't always mean nice, too. Hello, i need your help. See i have a crush on this really cute guy since i moved schools late last year and my ex bestie found out i liked him via guessing it because her crush is mines best friend. And my constant staring at him.

A few weeks later she told him. Now my other friend was talking to him in the school libary, and he accused me of making him fail in english and maths. When i did next to nothing! I have nothing to do with him! Some part of me doesn't beleive it. Allthough a few times i find him looking at me. I dont harras him. His friends are the toxic ones here. Not me, what do i do? Im really confused so i came to you. Cher - Woo hoo!

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A very big high five! So, I took your advice in confessing to him and under no circumstances shall I watch his confession tomorrow. We talked about that matter in private messaging since I am too shy to open up the video call and he respected that. He panicked slightly and pleaded to come and watch just for support. I told him no, and that I told him that I have to discuss that sort of thing to him and surprise surprise, confess to him in the middle of the convo. He told me to just say it in chat but I insisted on face-to-face since I was going to confess, he won't see if my facial expression would be sincere and all and I want to express my feelings to him vocally.

The next day, I wanted to back out since confessing is too overwhelming for me considering this is the first time I have to confess to the guy I love. After classes, he called me for the first time and told me to follow him at the back of the school so that we will talk. It was really far from how we talk in the PMs cause in reality, we talk awkwardly, like we were meeting each other for the first time but after a few topics, we recovered from the awkwardness and began talking like best friends.

He suddenly brings up the topic about the girl he likes and that's where everything happened. He starts of describing how amazing she is and how approachable she is and stuff, and I admit I was very jealous and I was sad at the same time, thinking of wow what a wonderful girl she is and told him, "Wow, you will be a very lucky guy if she falls for you after your confession today. I played it off as if I was hearing the wrong thing and laughed and told him to say it again because I didn't hear him correctly and he confessed AGAIN.

Well, I didn't manage to confess first before him since he beat me through it but here I am, thanking you for your advice as I am having a video call with my pretty sweet boyfriend in the other window lol. Donny - First, because I'm a former corporate HR investigator let me commend you on one big point It's still worthwhile to check your company's policies to make sure dating a colleague is permitted. Sometimes there are even policies against that. If so, then a crush totally works in your case until someone says they're not interested.

Many people meet their mates at work. I met my husband at work. If the relationship doesn't work out, at least she's not in the same department. Second, to address your question, you seem very attentive towards her and respectful of her feelings. Realize that she might not have a lot of practice dating. Even being a shy woman, she has taken a risk and accepted your dinner invitation as well as allowed you to buy her dinner when she was doing the night shift.

If she was not interested at all, she'd probably make excuses or turn you down cold. You had a good time when you went out. She may not text back because she's shy and doesn't know what to make of the relationship. Instead, how about calling her instead? If she is receptive to chatting via phone, then pick a concert or activity based on mutual interests and invite her to go.

Tell her you had fun over dinner and would like to continue to get to know her better outside of work, if she's interested. For example, sometimes you can find really interesting things on Groupon or similar sites that you've never considered doing until you see them -- sushi making classes, ziplining, archery, paint nights, escape rooms.

Make it a memorable adventure together so that it challenges you both to open up. You need shared activities that other coworkers aren't a part of so that you're establishing your own history together. It's best if you're a newbie at the activity, too, so you go through it together. Keep trying until she gives you more of an indication regarding how she feels.

Crushes: You're More Obvious Than You Believe

I have a crush on one of my colleagues at work. We have known each other for almost a year. I started to have feelings for her the past few months and hence began my very subtle attempts at flirting and geting to know her better. She is of the shy type but has a group of friends guys and girls whom she regularly goes out with. I thought I didnt have any chance of getting together with her until few days back when I decided to take a leap of faith and asked her out for dinner which she suprisingly agreed too. I was suprised as she always have dinner plans with her friends.

Just the two of us, we had a nice evening where we talked a lot about work, family, the past etc. I just dont know what to make of it. Do I have a chance? Im scared of ruining a precious friendship.

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I have been dropping many hints past few months; staying back to help her even though we are different departments, buying her dinner when she is doing night shift, caught me staring at her few times and virtually being around her most of the time at work. Though I dont know if she notices it or not. Cher - You indicate that he is super shy, and I'm betting if that's the case he may not have a lot of practice with crushes, dating, and social skills. That's a nice way of saying he's probably socially awkward to some extent.

That means with your outgoing personality and more polished social skills, you'll likely have to cut him some slack and also take the lead on this. I suspect since you have hit it off so famously that it is actually you he wants to confess his attraction to. However, his method is awkward at best and it's odd that he insist that you watch him confess his love to someone else if that's the case and cruel if he suspects you like him.

Consider tell him that under no circumstances will you be showing up to spy on him confessing his love to his crush and you need to Facetime or Skype him to discuss the matter. Then ask him point blank who is this person because you are attracted to him and you think the feeling is mutual. If it gets awkward for example, there really is someone else , that's okay. At least you told him.

You say you're in love. He needs to know where you stand instead of making you play silly games. It's better to be rejected than always wonder! Take it from me! We met by a friend when we were added in a Messenger groupchat, a groupchat for friends or so she says. He is a really silent kid while I'm an upbeat, energetic kiddo. I had no intentions of falling for him and I just thought of him as a schoolmate of mine we are not classmates. One day, I happen to touch a topic while talking to my best friend in the groupchat that sparked his interests, it was actually surprising to find out we had the same interests and that was when he actually started to chat in the groupchat.

Starting from that day, we always chat on that groupchat of ours, with our friends telling us to just PM each other since we are noisy haha.

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He always chats me first in the groupchat, sometimes mentioning me if I don't see it directly. When we chat in PMs, either he chats first or tells me in the groupchat to chat in the PM first for some reason. Even if we are only very close in chats and just look at each other silently in person, I still fell in love with my schoolmate. He told me that in two days, he is going to confess to a girl that he recently likes and apparently my friends know it excluding me, the closest friend that is girl in which he says so , who doesn't know anything about that girl.

He told me to go at xxx location if I want to see him confessing. I told him that I'm not going to keep my heart from shattering btw, I did not tell him that lol but he insists that I go so I'll go. I'm actually shaking since this is the first time I encountered this situation. Do I make the first move and confess? This is the first time I fell in love with someone and I don't know what to do. Grace - You say you text him and he responds but in a delayed fashioned.

Your task is to discover whether he's being socially awkward, a player, or he's just super busy or distracted. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to help figure it out. Does HE ever initiate contact, or is it always you? Are you sure he's single? Does he have a reputation as a player? Does he leave you on "Read" for a long time before responding? That's probably more likely to be game playing if that's how he does it.

When he flirts back is it talk always sexual or does he want to know about YOU, how your day went, who you are as a person, etc.? The more it tends to be sex-charged, the more likely he's using you for self-gratification fantasies. Sexting is a mistake. I assume you have interactions with him that are in person too rather than just over text. How does he treat you then? Does he pay respectful attention to you, flirt, want to be close to you in person?

Rely more on the in-person encounters to gauge how he really feels about you. Does he tend to be shy? You could also just come right out and ask him what takes him so long to reply to your texts. I'd do it in person and would make a bit of a joke of it. Call his behavior out. Don't allow yourself to be treated like this. If he wants to flirt, then he can do it a little more on your terms or else explain himself. Relationships -- even those in the early stages -- are two-way streets. I love this guy, and I've been texting him recently but he takes so long to reply!

I don't know if he loves me or not! When he does reply it's quite flirty but I just can't work it out. It's always over a day to reply which is why I have my doubts but it's painful and I really need some help! Astrid, I'm so sorry that this didn't work out this time. However, the positive side is that you built some confidence, the rejection truly wasn't about you, and at least you're not pining about all summer about someone you can never be with. It's wonderful that he trusted you enough as a friend to be candid about his sexual identity.

That had to be really hard for him. I hope the net experience was positive and that you've gained a good male friend. Someone as sensitive and caring as you will find someone, probably when you least expect it. I know its been a while, but yeah I finally told him not directly, but it will make sense in a minute We had a masquerade dance last weekend and I went; he was also there as well as some of our other friends. I wasn't planning on telling him that night, but eventually I got the courage to request a slow song a few songs later when it came on, I asked him if he wanted to dance with me.

He's an amazing dancer he's been doing choreography for our theater productions and he's been dancing since he was a kid , and it felt amazing to dance with him. Also as the song was ending he told me that he wanted to talk to me, and he also told me to go get my phone because he wanted to take a picture of me on one of the spiral staircases. So I went back to our table and grabbed my phone and then we walked over to the staircase and he took a very nice picture of me and told me I was pretty.

He told me that he really values me as a friend and doesn't want to lose me as one, and then he told me something about himself that he said he does not really tell anyone, especially anyone from our hometown we're both from the same city you can probably guess what it is, I'm just omitting it out of respect for him. He was so sweet about the whole thing, he was even apologizing, but I told him that he didn't have to because its part of who he is and that is nothing to apologize for.

Despite the slight disappointment, I feel so honored that he trusted me enough to tell me. Then we had a nice conversation and he called me gorgeous and said he truly thinks there is someone out there for me. It steams until it simmers, warm to the finish. He was also about spreading the love, both literally—he had at least 10 children with a number of a different women—and through his songs. But the moment of ignition comes later: Talk about shaky knees. Her sparse arrangement—just a bass line and some jazzy snaps—really allows her voice to shine and those lyrics to burn up.

Its mild suggestiveness was still a little too racy when it was released, though, and the subject matter became an issue when the Stones were slated to appear on The Ed Sullivan Show. Simple chords, simple lyrics—sometimes getting straight to the point is the sexiest thing a song can do. He sounds appreciative of both the sight of a beautiful woman and the power she wields by virtue of sheer style, but the way Buckley sings it, everybody here wants him. But the combined effect feels like being bathed in the warm glow of a candlelit room or the first shock of rain on a summer day.

When the instruments fall away and leave only Aretha and her back-up singers, they sound positively breathless; their exhalations are nearly X-rated. On top of a steady, rolling drum line, Green sings about how and why he and his lover should stay together and keep on loving each other forever with a vulnerability that would make any woman tremble.