Radically Condensed Instructions for Being Just as You Are

We need to expose kids to novelty, challenge and stimulation during adolescence when the brain is still plastic. We need to engage them in activities that are likely to specifically improve their self-regulation.

And we need to change how we evaluate what we're doing away from the mere prevention of problems and toward positive developments. Our approach now is, 'Well, if we've raised adolescents and they're not drug addicts or in jail, we've done a good job. The parenting tips you offer in your book — setting clear expectations, being consistent — seem a lot like advice for rearing small children. It's more a question of the specifics than the general actual style.

The authoritative parenting style I describe — a combination of being warm but firm and gradually allowing your child to become more independent — it turns out it just works at all ages. It's the way you express your warmth or the things you're firm about, the things you let your child be independent about — those things change, but the basics of good parenting are the same.

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Top Stories Michael Flynn sentencing postponed to allow for further co-operation. Amazon to open new downtown Toronto office, create jobs. Rather than another work of "pointers" or a system, the reader is presented with a short series of "observations" or "maxims" on the nature of life. For example, that this moment is truly the only time we ever have - but presented not as a "teaching", but rather a logically argued conclusion to a philosophical discussion.

When the mind truly accepts the inescapable logic of the conclusion, one can't help but be in nondual presence, or at least in a much more richly lived moment! I've read this little gem three times, which is unusual for me, and will again in a few months when I've lived with the contents for a few months. I was brought to this book by my friend and teacher, Joan Tollifson, and I am very grateful that this happened.

I downloaded it and bought the paper copy as well.

This little book is clear, challenging, and good-humored. At one point Ms. Matthews writes, "I'm going to introduce some ideas. I've numbered them so you know I mean business. That was the verbal correlate of my Zen teacher's kyosaku!

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As I read, I felt that the author was sitting alongside me, very aware of all the pitfalls and also very aware that there are no pitfalls unless "I" create them. Definitely a highly recommended book.

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Matthews takes a laid-back, humorous approach to the subject, making for an enlightening, and entertaining exploration. Jennifer Matthews has written a fresh, concise, insightful little book on a subject that defies comprehension for all the times it's been discussed: I've read numerous books on being, from the so-called nondual perspective: Some of these books were useful, some entertaining, some both, and some, frankly, neither.

But none put the matter so clearly and succinctly as Matthews' "Instructions". Noticing that Matthews studied theology at Louvain and at the Episcopal Divinity School, I also noticed a complete absence of references to divinity. For one who has been somewhat preoccupied, for years, with God-concepts, this was at first a bit startling. Usually I find other attempts at nondual exposition which downplay divinity rather unsatisfying. Usually assurances that there is "nothing to do, nothing to become", etc. Matthews' unique way of describing the origins and perils of "selfhood" she calls it a process of "selving" , and her particular way of expressing the fact that what we think of as "I" is really just open awareness, are so refreshing, so clear, that no abstruse theological concepts or mystical prescriptions are wanted.