LONELY IN CROWDS? Super Way Out

So if you want to fight loneliness for good, get a pet.

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I work on my creativity project. Being alone helps me to focus on my creativity and shift my mind away from feeling lonely and miserable.

It is hard to feel lonely when I am trying to make some paper flowers. Maybe it is time for you to build a wooden toy house you always wanted, or draw your first painting, or paint the wall. Just something simple will do the trick. As crazy as it sounds, I learn how to treat my loneliness like a friend who decided to drop by my house to check on me. I stop resisting how I feel.

I decided to listen to my heart, recognize my feeling, embrace it and accept it. Together with my loneliness. She is my company. I have to treat her nicely because she cares for me. Making peace with our feelings is self-compassion. When you let a painful emotion hits into your heart with compassion, it disarms them and takes away all the bitterness. It eases your pain. So next time you feel lonely, say this to her. I have seen you come to visit again for a while. Again, I find myself laying down, wide awake, looking at nothing in the middle of the night.

It is so quiet that I feel like I am the only person left in the world. But I am no longer depressed, I no longer feel guilty. I know it is an old friend comes to visit.

And I know what to do with her now. My cat jump onto my lap, purring while I pet her. Soon enough, I feel peaceful and calm.

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I welcome the present of myself and not long before I turn off the music and carefully bring my cat to bed with me. I hug my husband while my cat purring in my pillow. I know this is what I want and I appreciate every moment of it. Mai Pham is an employee during the day, an employer at night. As a solo-entrepreneur, she knows the barriers to start a side hustle while working full-time. She helps people to build a profitable side business while maintaining their work-life balance.

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Feeling lonely in the crowd? Try these 9 magic loneliness-busting tips. Never miss a story from Be Yourself , when you sign up for Medium. Because I have written about depression, some such people have reached out to me for advice, describing its universal bleakness and the bleaker reality of suffering without the cushion of love. We are imprisoned even in crowded cities and at noisy parties. Prof Simon Wessely, the incoming president of the Royal College of Psychiatrists, has indicated that only one-third of people with mental health issues in the UK are receiving treatment of any kind , which means that the number receiving effective treatment must be much smaller.

It has been suggested that treating mentally ill people is expensive, and that in the current economic climate, funds cannot readily be found for such treatment. But not treating the depressed is ultimately more expensive than treating them. People who cannot function end up on the dole; parents may not be able to take care of their children; men and women too depressed to sustain their physical health could develop serious conditions that cost the NHS a great deal.

Such neglect would never be tolerated in response to a physical illness. Depression is a disease of loneliness.

Many untreated depressives lack friends because it saps the vitality that friendship requires and immures its victims in an impenetrable sheath, making it hard for them to speak or hear words of comfort. Love — both expressed and received — is helpful, not because it ameliorates the symptoms of depression it does not , but because it gives people evidence that life may be worth living if they can only get better.

You could join an exercise class, take up a competitive sport or head to your local gym. Talking to people online is a great way to battle loneliness, as it allows you to stay in a comfortable, safe space such as your own room and still make contact with the outside world.

While sometimes it can be a mission to dodge the trolls and haters, a little searching should uncover an online haven filled with your kind of people. Check them out here. Try to challenge yourself to get out and socialise at least once a week. Grab a good book, the morning crossword, a sports mag or even just your Reddit feed and head to a local spot. You don't have to get too creative, just find somewhere you're comfortable chilling out for an hour.

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It might be a local cafe, a dog park, a gallery or the nearest beach. The first few times flying solo can feel a little awkward. You might even worry that people are judging you - but we promise they're not. A regular hang spot can also help you to meet new people. Writing is a great way to battle loneliness, as it helps you to clarify your thoughts, process your emotions and get to know yourself better. Your journal can become like a best friend: