How To Seduce Your Wife Or Girlfriend - its easier than you think!

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So what was it that made you stop? False sense of security or entitlement? Whatever it was, you need to bring it back. Let me state the obvious: Sometimes all he she has to do is show up. You already know that women are much more complex creatures when it comes to sexual arousal. They list more conditions for fluctuations in female sexual arousal than this article can fit: Remember when I said that women are not as visual as men? They see plenty of hot bodies on the internet and cable. The only thing you will get with that silly strip-down move is a cold. Start off more subtly. Even blunt, out of nowhere phrases like: So why should she think you are?

So, what do you do instead? Make her want you! How do you make her want you? Gently brush your hand against hers. Let your hand linger on her back or arms as you touch her. Instead of grabbing her boob, kiss the back of her neck. Undress her and yourself slowly. There are as many ways to seduce the woman you love as there are women in the world. You successfully seduced her before and loved the benefits of that effort you put in.

Instead of sounding all cool and collected, let your softer, hidden side shine through. Another example is if you're usually very shy around her. Tonight, take charge in your interactions. She'll be very turned on. Make use of touch. Touch plays a huge role in romance for women as it does for men.

If you're too quick to rush into the actual act of sex, your girlfriend can be turned off and feel overwhelmed. Use touch to set the stage, create some sexual tension and start warming her to the idea of romance. Make sure that the timing is right.

What you have to understand about women is that their sex drive tends to work very differently from a man's. Women tend to have their sex drive tank when they're stressed, sad, tired, or sick feeling in any way. If she's suffering from one of those bad moods, it just might not be possible to get her feeling in the mood and trying will only upset her more. Do something nice for her. Women are often uncomfortable having a close physical relationship with someone that they don't feel cares about them. A good way to show your girlfriend that you're serious in your commitment to her is to do something really, profoundly nice for her.

You can certainly start with the usual flowers and chocolates but if you have the chance to do something with a bit more impact on her life, take that chance. For example, let's say that she's having a hard time getting to work or school ever since her car broke down. Call up a buddy of yours who works on cars and find a way to trade for the use of his skills. Getting your girl back on the road will take a huge amount of stress off of her. Of course, just because you do something nice does not mean she's obligated to have sex with you and you shouldn't use it as a way to pressure her into a more physical situation.

Instead, this should be used to show her that you are a good partner, devoted to and honestly invested in her happiness. Make a romantic gesture. A romantic gesture is something nice for her that also declares your romantic interest. This will be very important as it shows that you think of her as more than just a friend.

Girls will often worry that you don't find them sexy or attractive if you don't get romantic every now and again, which will turn them off of the idea of a physical relationship. Make a romantic gesture and she'll soften right up. Compliment her in the right ways. Another way to set the scene for romance is to compliment her. However, complimenting well doesn't come naturally to everyone. Sometimes we say things that we think are nice and we mean well, but it's easy to be insulting without meaning it.

Pay attention to how you compliment and try to compliment her in a good way. For example, you want to avoid compliments like "you look really nice today" because it implies that she does not normally look nice. Another one to avoid is "that dress makes you look so thin" because it implies that she normally looks fat. While it's better to tailor compliments to the woman in question, a good go-to compliment would be something like "I feel like I could talk to you forever" or "I feel like I can just be myself around you". Who feels like being seduced when they're surrounded by dirty laundry and dishes?

Romance is also harder if you're just going straight into it after a totally unromantic part of your day, like a stressful day at school or work. Help your girlfriend switch gears into a more romantic mindset so that she's ready to be seduced.

Actually turn up the heat. Some studies have found that women have a more difficult time feeling physical pleasure when they're too cold.

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Give her a relaxing massage. Start the serious seduction process by giving her a great massage. If you don't know how, don't worry: Go slow and don't cut it off after just a few minutes. You want to get her feeling nice and relaxed, like a big puddle of butter. Use a bottle of lavender or regular baby oil or an oil based lotion to give the massage.

This will stop you from irritating her skin and will also help your hands glide across her skin in a more soothing and sexy manner.

Go beyond the basic kiss or make out. You probably know how to kiss. If you don't, you'll need to go back to the basics before you can really seduce her. However, even if you feel like a pro, you might want to consider trying to step up your game.

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Experiment with kissing her stomach and the sides of her rib cage. This is a very sensitive area. You can play a game where you kiss every one of her freckles, counting them and going in ever more risque directions as you go. Another good spot is just at the corners of her mouth, which will be very sensitive and drive her crazy. She'll want to kiss your mouth but don't let her, instead kissing everywhere else until you make her beg you to kiss her on the lips. Talk dirty and sexy. Guys tend to think that they should never talk dirty to a woman or that doing so might be disrespectful.

However, there is a time and a place and for some women, this can be a huge turn on. Once you're in a sexy situation, try telling her exactly what you want to do to her. Tell her how you want to make her feel.

Say these things in a low, husky voice. Whisper them into her ear. She'll find it irresistible because it's flattering for her to know how much you want her right now. Say something like, "You're so hot right now. I just want to tease you until you're begging for me Stimulate her erogenous zones. Once you've set the stage for the activity you want, you'll need to start stimulating her body so that she's ready for that kind of interaction.

If you go too fast into the really physical stuff, you'll quickly turn her off. Stimulate her erogenous, or sexually sensitive, zones for a little while before going into actual sex. Stimulating the back of her neck, her breasts, the inside of her thighs, ears and butt all can help get her in the mood. Pick a body part and them pick an action: There are endless combinations. Of course, if the stage has really been set, you can also stimulate more sensitive areas.

If she's ready for it and you've established consent, you can rub against her clitoral area with your finger.