Is Having a Boyfriend Really Necessary?

For some people who have grown up around this kind of behavior it can almost seem normal or OK. Many of us learn from watching and imitating the people close to us. So someone who has lived around violent or disrespectful behavior may not have learned how to treat others with kindness and respect or how to expect the same treatment.

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Qualities like kindness and respect are absolute requirements for a healthy relationship. Someone who doesn't yet have this part down may need to work on it with a trained therapist before he or she is ready for a relationship.

Meanwhile, even though you might feel bad or feel for someone who's been mistreated, you need to take care of yourself — it's not healthy to stay in a relationship that involves abusive behavior of any kind. When a boyfriend or girlfriend uses verbal insults, mean language, nasty putdowns, gets physical by hitting or slapping, or forces someone into sexual activity, it's a sign of verbal, emotional, or physical abuse. These aren't the only questions you can ask yourself. If you can think of any way in which your boyfriend or girlfriend is trying to control you, make you feel bad about yourself, isolate you from the rest of your world, or — this is a big one — harm you physically or sexually, then it's time to get out, fast.

Let a trusted friend or family member know what's going on and make sure you're safe.

But even if you know that the person hurting you loves you, it is not healthy. Ever heard about how it's hard for someone to love you when you don't love yourself? It's a big relationship roadblock when one or both people struggle with self-esteem problems. Your girlfriend or boyfriend isn't there to make you feel good about yourself if you can't do that on your own. I like doing whatever I want, whenever I want and am rarely willing to compromise. I enjoy paying for my own stuff and admittedly love never having to pay for someone else.

Although — really guys! I want to make this clear; I want a boyfriend just as badly as the next year-old single girl in Manhattan.

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This being my first run with such a feat, I failed quite miserably. My IKEA bed now squeaks so loudly it literally wakes me up in the middle of the night.



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Also, if said boyfriend knows how to properly install an AC unit that would be an additional bonus. Is that something boyfriends these days are good at repairing? I like to assume yes. In the time since I was last in a relationship, a strange phenomenon has begun.

Is there buffalo dip?

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Do they play charades? But I surely do want one.

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And you can love it. Your eight-hour solo shopping spree is not going to push anyone to the brink of madness, like it would if you had a boyfriend in tow. You never have to watch him and his friends play video games for hours on end. No one is there to witness the ghastly sight of you wearing your glasses and retainer to bed.

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Never struggle to explain away your irritated pink-skinned chin again. Did you see what happened to Heidi Montag? You can lay poolside without fear of the male archetypal scoop-and-throw into the water. You can wear opaque lipstick and not have to worry about him making him look like a drag queen post-smooch. You can wear your ridiculously comfortable — but also hideous — pairs of underwear without having to worry about someone seeing them. Resident overachiever and proud!