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The fruit was very good. I do not recommend this restaurant. After traveling all day on the Skyland Drive through Shenandoah Valley and turning into our hotel parking lot to check in we were pleasantly surprised at seeing how close Golden Corral was. We checked into our hotel and then decided to go get our tickets for Williamsburg before going to eat.

The weekday breakfast buffet was horrendous. We went on a Tuesday morning and there were maybe 4 other people there.

Food on the buffet, including sausage gravy, potatoes, etc were cold. The girl at the omelette station was rude and did not ask what to put in the omelette, just dumped a pre-made selection in with the already overcooked egg. This may be a good choice on a busy weekend, but I doubt we will try it again.

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Write a Review Depression is like a dark tunnel with no light at the end. I wondered if I would ever get out of it. Leaving the mission field broke our hearts, but we needed to get back to America to get some help. I did not tell most people, including my minister friends, why we were leaving because I did not feel I could.

When we returned and were pastoring again, I sought help from a Christian psychologist and psychiatrist. My depression was not getting better; it was getting worse. The first thing I said to my counselor was: You are wound too tight. I am going to show you how to loosen the spring and get balance. I did not know what antidepressants were. I just needed help. I felt like those in the hospital who are hurting and desperately want the doctor to operate. When I began to sleep regularly again, I regained my ability to think.

Then I talked with my doctors and we figured out what I needed to change. I continued pastoring and the church gave me permission to slow down. The church grew in spite of that. Now, when I can see depression or burnout returning, I back off. I tell my secretary to free up my schedule or I take a few days off. One day my wife and I were on a trip. We stopped at a traffic light and suddenly I did not know where we were or where we were going. I could not figure out whether we had to turn left, or right, or move forward.

Susan called our friend who is a Christian psychologist. We were supposed to be away for 6 weeks, but we canceled these plans and returned home. Our decision to seek help came at a time when many events were scheduled in the church, which made for an even more traumatic time. It is important to choose a Christian psychiatrist. Many general practitioners can prescribe antidepressants, but there is a difference between general practice and psychopharmacology.

Find a doctor who specializes in this field. Then seek Christian counseling to help you work through changes needing to be made in your life. I met with our psychologist friend. He took me to a psychiatrist. My condition was serious enough for my doctors to consider hospitalization.

They decided to give me time on medication first. My next-door neighbor is Dan Sutherland. His wife Mary wrote the book Coming Out of the Dark: A Journey Out of Depression about her battle with depression. He told me I was going to be okay. I thought I would never be able to study, write, or preach again. Dan came to my house a couple of times a day. He also explained the difference between wanting to die and being suicidal.

I wanted to die because I thought my life was over, but I was not planning to take my life. I remember telling the doctor I had seen other people in my condition that did not get all of their mental abilities back. The doctors could not promise me I would. This was my argument with them. I believed life was over. I needed friendship, a confidant, a spiritual director, a medical doctor, and a professional counselor. Leighton Ford also provided needed comfort and direction during this time. People we thought were friends walked away from us. Some of our ministry friends have not returned.

In the middle of our crisis, we received phone calls that my book contract was canceled, and speaking engagements were canceled — not to be rescheduled. I looked at the situation and said: During this time my wife went into her own depression. She withdrew along with me, and eventually we were both getting help. She had adjusted to taking care of me, but now she also needed help. I have been good at choosing the Timothys and Barnabases in my life. Over the last 8 or 9 years, my biggest mistakes were choosing the Pauls. When things began to deteriorate, I found the people whom I thought I had real relationships with either wanted to use me or control me.

I thought these were mutual friendships, but I soon realized these people were only close to me because I was the senior pastor. Our struggle brought the truth to the surface. This caused me additional grief. How could I have been so blind? Building relationships is another difficult area of pastoral life. Even in a small church, people can get close to the pastor for the wrong reasons. Building new church structures to assist church boards and pastors is a pilgrimage I have been working on and writing about for over 20 years. I have written Escape From Church, Inc.

Creating new structures is like a salmon swimming up the ecclesiastical stream, but I think people are starting to recognize the need for them. The first step is to replace secular leadership with a sacred leadership model. The church has adopted an overall leadership model that comes from the world. The research shows that the American population as a whole has a very poor view of secular leadership. The vast majority believes it to be untrustworthy and lacking in authenticity.

Yet this is the very model and systems we have brought into our churches. Changing this model is key. When the church changes its leadership model, it can then begin changing its internal structures. Proper structure should begin on the front end and move more toward spiritual direction. The concept of the boardroom needs to be replaced with the hospital room. Churches as well as pastoral offices need to be seen as safe places where hurting people can be ministered to in a nonadversarial way.

When a patient is admitted to the hospital, doctors do not yell at him because he is having a heart attack. Doctors do not cause further harm because of the stress they are under. A hospital is a place where people are brought to health, and then changes are suggested for ongoing health. A leadership shift from a judgmental spirituality to a confessional spirituality is needed.

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I am one of the more transparent preachers of my generation, but transparency is not well accepted by my generation. The younger generation wants transparency. To allow for a gentle response to the realities of life, pastors need to have feet of clay and permission to confess. If I am preaching on marriage, I can say: Pastors also need to get away from the secular concept of accountability, which is about as affirming as an IRS audit.

The biblical concept is mutuality. There is accountability along with affirmation and trust, something that was lacking in my situation. There needs to be a change from a solution orientation to a process orientation. Many people offered me quick fixes, but few were willing to walk through the process with me and encourage me in overcoming depression and burnout.

A pastor can tell who his true friends are by which way they run when life becomes difficult, and by what they say before they run. I received many well-intended suggestions. I tried exercising 4 or 5 days a week. I became obsessive-compulsive with many of these ideas and none of them were helping me out of my depression.

No one suggested I was clinically depressed and needed help. Last, pastors need to replace giving up with starting over. I was struggling with whether I should quit ministry and just take a job somewhere. I had started a new ministry, but I had my doubts whether it was something I should continue or not. When Glenn and I met for lunch, I saw the depression and burnout in his eyes. I am open when I speak at a ministers institute, and it is interesting how many of our pastors — at every level from huge churches to tiny churches — come to me and admit they are spent.

They are going through stress, depression, or burnout, but they cannot talk to anyone about it. Pastors are afraid to talk about their depression. I have decided not to be afraid to talk about this. I care less about what others may think because I know the Lord created me and understands me. I do not need to live in fear. I am going to trust the Lord. I have been there, and I am going to avoid being there again.

Denominations need to give ministers permission to talk. Another finding in the Pulpit and Pew study is that most preachers in every denomination in America do not trust their district superintendent or their national office. They are afraid that if they are discovered having marital difficulty, depression, or burnout it will affect their future. It is a matter of job security. Ministers want to protect their ability to continue in the ministry and their ability to make a living. The Assemblies of God has taken strides toward meeting this need, but there is much more to do.

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The Enrichment journal, the ministers help line , and various counseling programs across the country have been established to meet the need, but we have not done enough. Ministers are frightened, so they hide. They put their head in the sand. This is why I talk with several pastors on the phone. We talk and we are bringing healing to one another. We are giving each other permission to talk.

But there needs to be a change in how pastors perceive their district superintendent and even their presbyters.

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Nationally, we need to offer seminars to pastors and laity on stress, depression, burnout, and marital difficulty. Seminar speakers and church officials need to talk about these subjects and say: I want you to get well. I want you to get in balance. I am your friend. Our churches are not necessarily safe places. It is interesting how many people in the pew have family members on medication or in counseling for depression. But when depression affected me, I was accused of everything from faking depression to having unconfessed sin in my life.

People believe a man of God should not be depressed. Many issues need to be addressed, but to blame the pastor for being depressed is wrong. The church should not say a victim is responsible for his own self-care and well-being. Churches and denominations need to take responsibility for the health of their ministers. When I speak at conferences, people are much more willing to talk to me because I admit my wife has struggled off and on for years with depression.

Neither one of us ever thought it would hit me. Where can pastors find a safe place to share their problems? I have an e-mail from a pastor whose doctor told him he needed to take 6 to 8 weeks off and get away from the ministry. He went to his board. They said they would give him 4 weeks.

When he returned, the board gave him a 2-week termination notice explaining his condition disqualified him for ministry.

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They were unwilling to help him get well. So, there are two ways of looking at these issues: Susan and I have chosen to be straightforward. We speak about my depression honestly and prayerfully, and hope it will free others to do the same. The perception of sabbaticals is changing. Even in the secular world people are starting to discuss and plan sabbaticals for leadership. I have two thoughts on sabbaticals. First, the average board member does not understand the difference between what they do and what the pastor does. There is a difference between how a church of a certain size and budget operates and how a business of the same size and budget operates.

A pastor has the weight of caring for people and is responsible for their spiritual welfare. His calling mandates he take this responsibility seriously. There is a great emotional drain and pull on those in ministry, more than on the average business owner. Those who own businesses work hard and their responsibility can be draining. The difference is in being responsible for eternal souls as opposed to making and selling a product and operating a business. Second, the whole concept of a church board turns the pastor into an employee rather than a leader.

The more a pastor tries to talk about personal needs and concerns the more moral authority and leadership ability the church board can take away from him. A board can render a pastor powerless in the midst of his ministry. There is a disconnect in pastor-board understanding making it difficult for a pastor to discuss his need for a sabbatical or a salary increase. There is no better way to prepare poultry than through the sous vide cooking technique, which results in a perfectly cooked meal thats tender, succulent, and flavorful. The vacuum pouch seals in juices while the gentle precision of sous vide cooking tenderizes, re-infusing rich flavor and preventing dry, overcooked meat.

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