25 Tips and Thoughts on Love and Relationships

When life's stressful, it's easy to blame our partners for what's "wrong" with our lives, even though it's never anyone's fault, including ours.

Everyone is right from his or her perspective, which means no one is wrong. So criticizing and blaming need to be off-limits. Try arguing without saying "you. We're the only ones responsible for our emotions and reactions, so it's not appropriate to make people wrong so that we can justify our outbursts. If we need to vent, we can say to our partners: I'm not looking for a solution. I just need to unload. If the answer's No, we need to find a different outlet. We've set causes in motion, and we're experiencing the results, so our problems are not originating outside of us.

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And whatever our partners are giving us is what we believe we deserve. There will always be plenty of evidence to prove whatever we believe is true - even that it's all our partners fault - because our lives are the result of whatever we believe. When we see our partners' worst , it's also active in us and they're mirroring it for us. Our predictable responses keep our partners treating us in a predictable manner.

So if we want people to act differently toward us, it begins by acting differently ourselves. Until we change, nothing will change. Making a conscious decision to stop being triggered by what our partners say and do will deactivate our buttons and give us back our power. And if we change our usual response, our partners will also change their behavior. Our partners can't affect us emotionally until we've chosen what to believe about them and their behavior. And whatever words we use to describe them, they can't be anything else for us, because we can only experience what we believe about them.

So don't keep confirming, in thoughts or words, what you don't want. When disruptive energy comes at us, it helps to focus on the cause rather than whether we should react with the same energy, returning anger for anger, etc. The opposite of anger is understanding, which means focusing on why our partners do what they do - because why people do what they do matters more than what they do.

Eventually it will work out. Have Your Spouse Resolve Conflict. Realize relationships take TIME to build. One or even several large scale fights do not mean you cannot have a relationship. I think it helps to try to accentuate the positive. She is loving, giving, and incredibly kind.

Of course, there are quirks that irritate me now and again, but in those moments, I try to remind myself that she is only doing what she thinks is best based off of her experience. Including them in all aspects of our lives, calling several times a week and including them on our family vacations with the kids. We WANT our children to have amazing memories of their grandparents. One day, WE will be the grandparents and would love the same respect.

We love and respect each others parents and they love and respect us.

We laugh, love and support each other as much as we can. Let Them Out of The Box. To love and accept them as they are! I think I expected them to be like my family, and they are not.

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Remember Who They Are. Not being so prideful myself that I ignore their wisdom and love. They truly love me as their daughter and I love them as parents. They Are Not the Enemy. Each party has a different love type and level. When both parties respect that…then you have peace and harmony. Show constant love and gratitude for raising a wonderful child! Build a friendship with them and include them in your life, not just in areas where your spouse is involved but in all areas.

Pray for God to connect your families together also. Let Go of Grudges. Let go of grudges. I never put on a show for her.

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