6 Steps To Forgiveness: A Live Forgiveness Session With A Step-By-Step Process

We suggest that you move through the steps below based on what works for you. Know exactly how you feel about what happened and be able to articulate what about the situation is not OK. Then tell a few trusted people about your experience. Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciling with the person who upset you or condoning his or her actions.

In forgiveness, you seek the peace and understanding that come from blaming people less after they offend you and taking those offenses less personally. Get the right perspective on what is happening. Recognize that your primary distress is coming from the hurt feelings, thoughts, and physical upset you are suffering now, not from what hurt you two minutes—or 10 years—ago. This could mean taking deep breaths, doing a mindful breathing exercise, taking a walk outside—whatever is most effective for you.

Give up expecting things from your life or from other people that they do not choose to give you. Remind yourself that you can hope for health, love, friendship, and prosperity, and work hard to get them. You will suffer when you demand that these things occur, since you do not have the power to make them happen.

Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that has hurt you. Remember that a life well-lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, and thereby giving power over you to the person who caused you pain, look for the love, beauty, and kindness around you. Put more energy into appreciating what you have rather than attending to what you do not have.

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But holding onto a grudge too deeply or for too long can wreak havoc on our mental and physical health—it can elevate stress, increase our blood pressure and heart rate, and even compromise our immune system. Because forgiveness can be a daunting challenge, Dr.

Fred Luskin of Stanford University has designed these nine steps to walk people through the process of forgiving someone who hurt them. Published December 10th by Josephine D. To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. To ask other readers questions about 6 Steps To Forgiveness , please sign up. Be the first to ask a question about 6 Steps To Forgiveness. Lists with This Book.

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Restore Your Boundaries Firmly separate yourself from the harmful actions and attitudes of the other person or situation. Open Up to Getting Your Needs Met in a Different Way Emotions have been released, expectations have been let go, and you no longer demand anything from the person or situation that you are forgiving. Receive Healing Energy from Spirit Reach to a higher level, bringing unconditional love and light into your being. Send Unconditional Love to the Other Person or Situation and Release Unconditional love and light is freely given to the person or situation you are forgiving.

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See the Good in the Person or Situation Now that you are free from the past pain and grievance, recognize the good that can be taken from the person or situation. The how to appendix provides a perennial, off-the-shelf reference to swiftly guide readers through the process whenever the need arises. Mary Hayes Grieco is the director and lead trainer of The Midwest Institute for Forgiveness Training and has served on staff at the Hazelden Treatment Center for more than sixteen years.

Grieco has offered workshops on her method of forgiveness in the United States, Ireland, and Germany, and she spoke at the Nobel Peace Prize Forum in She lives in Minneapolis. It is an act of universal harmony.

Guided by the belief that 'there is nothing that is unforgivable,' the author spends much of this book outlining her Eight Steps to Freedom. Part therapy and part ritual, the Eight Steps begin with expressing feelings and a desire to change, and proceed through restoring boundaries, opening up to the universe, sending unconditional love to the offending party, and finding the greater good.

It is a unique approach that incorporates Western therapeutic practices with Eastern concepts such as chakras.

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Her writing is serious when it should be, but also humorous and accessible. While the universal spirituality—meets—therapy session approach to forgiveness makes this somewhat of a niche book, it may speak to seekers who are struggling with unresolved personal or spiritual grievances. I recommend this forgiveness process to anyone who wants to lead a more loving life.

Mary Hayes Grieco is a wise, accessible guide through this powerful model of emotional healing.