The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband

What does it really mean to respect your husband? Should you respect your husband even if he's lazy? What about if he's irresponsible and the electricity gets turned of Ephesians 5: What about if he's irresponsible and the electricity gets turned off? What if he doesn't deserve your respect?

Nina Roesner challenges wives to take 40 days to learn to respect your husband — whether he deserves it or not. It's hard for me to review The Respect Dare because I feel like it is a mixed bag. It has some awesome marital advice. There are things that I absolutely agree with and things that I want to implement into my own role as a wife.

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However, I felt like some of the example stories didn't resonate with authenticity. I don't doubt that they are true, but maybe in the retelling some of the genuineness got lost. I also didn't agree with some of the advice and the small snippets of Scripture supporting those pieces of advice weren't enough to convince me. I needed more explanation and to see how those verses really related to my marriage and personal walk with God.

I also felt like there were some mixed messages. One one hand, the author made it very clear that a wife does not need to stay in an abusive situation or become a doormat. On the other hand, there were several times that it seemed like the message was to respect your husband no matter what he does I understand that people sometimes need to learn by experiencing consequences, but I also believe that the wife's role as helpmate does not mean that you have to let yourself and your children suffer because of your husband's poor choices.

Like I said, The Respect Dare had some great advice and some not-so-great advice, in my opinion. I received this ebook free from the publisher. As women we are want to justify our thoughts, poor behavior, and inappropriate speech on account of a man's failings, refusal to meet our expectations, or our perceived inability of his capacity to "be a man" according to our interpretations and perceptions of what the term entails. We exist in a media saturated cesspool continually extolling the imperfections of men at the expense of the supposed empowerment of women and we're the better for it.

Sometimes it's difficult to hear you're As women we are want to justify our thoughts, poor behavior, and inappropriate speech on account of a man's failings, refusal to meet our expectations, or our perceived inability of his capacity to "be a man" according to our interpretations and perceptions of what the term entails. Sometimes it's difficult to hear you're out of order. Oftentimes it's easier to listen to consenting voices which won't challenge you to the greater standard we're called to embrace.

But God's glory isn't subject to cultural changes or social media soundbites. He created man and woman in His image. And to accord him a lessened status; to malign him because of his differences or suggest that he is anything but the handiwork of the living God is a lie and a grave injustice to the sanctity of His creation.

If we're brutally honest with ourselves we'd acknowledge the difficulties one endures when mandates to respect conflict with hurts, disappointments, and unfulfilled desires we've encountered in our relationships. However, in the same breath are we willing to admit it can be duly difficult for the other party to offer unconditional love in the face of our disgrace, disrespect, and seeming disregard for their person?

Would you willingly offer the same without protest? The Respect Dare doesn't dispel the realities of the difficulty in doing so. Nevertheless, it draws strength and support from the scripture and calls us to look beyond ourselves and our bruising. Cease control, pressure, and endless advice that's rarely solicited. In other words, stop behaving like he's one of the girls. Slow down, listen, and learn him. Lean on the Lord and allow Him to demonstrate how excellence can be wrought in your relationship.

In the end the book will be most meaningful to those desiring to submit to God's agenda even when it juxtaposes their own. Obedience is better than sacrifice. That is the true juggernaut for relational success. Jan 22, Jessica rated it liked it. While I haven't worked through the book as intended, I read through most of it in order to give my review. I am excited to use this book as a daily exercise as the author intended. I am a huge fan of Eggerich's Love and Respect book, and we just finished a sunday school class study on it.

This is a nice extension for me of that series. The author gives forty daily readings and challenges for thought on the topic of respect. She recommends journaling the experience as well. The book is for women While I haven't worked through the book as intended, I read through most of it in order to give my review. The book is for women in thinking about their relationships with their husband.

This is not old-fashioned submission, as in respecting ones husband the goal is not to become a doormat, rather to honor what God requests of us in terms of our spouse. While the book does not give many concrete suggestions or "dares", it is more of a time for introspection as a wife as to how we think about, respond to, and respect our husbands. I can see this being very helpful in my life, as I often find myself struggling with my attitude towards my husband and what is happening in our home.

And honestly, any marriage book discussing how to change one's husband as opposed to changing oneself is not worth the paper it's written on. I recommend this book for anyone interested in continuing their study and efforts to respect their husband. Though I would recommend first reading Love and Respect in order to gain a better understanding of the Love and Respect relationship in a marriage. I received a copy of this ebook in exchange for my honest review. After using it more, i find that i don't love it as much as i thought.

Nov 28, Genna Evelyn rated it liked it. P While I have really enjoyed reading this book, I was a little disappointed with the format. I guess what I was hoping was that the book would give an idea of something different I could do each day that would be a blessing to my husband for that day and would, in turn, help us to develop a natural habit of respect between us as a result.

What the book actually does is give a different respect-related principle I preface these comments with the disclaimer that I DON'T currently have a husband What the book actually does is give a different respect-related principle to keep in mind for each day which begins to be a little on the overload side after a few days with some specific suggestions here and there.

I kinda get the feeling that Nina only used that format to sell books because its popular right now — and I can understand that since the only reason I picked up this book was because I was hoping for a practical guide to 40 specific days of different specific ways to show respect to my husband. I think this book was good for my marriage. I had been married a little over 6 months when I started it, so our marriage was going very well anyway. Now, we're doing even better. I have a different attitude now about things like housework and such.

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The book helped me to understand my husband a little better and God helped me to change some things about how we interact with each other. My husband noticed a difference in me at the end, and we're doing wonderfully now. The only things I didn't like I think this book was good for my marriage. The only things I didn't like about the book were that many "dares" didn't have tasks to complete that would show my husband I respect him. Also, many of the "dares" generalized the tasks that it did ask you to do so that you were to try to act a certain way around everyone in your life, not specifically toward your husband.

So, sometimes it felt more like a self improvement book than a marriage and relationship with God improvement book. I'm glad I read it, and my life benefited from it. There are some positive things here that will help improve your interpersonal relationships with everyone in your life: But unfortunately there are also quite a few problematic things about this book that would prevent me ever recommending it: Read this book with an open mind. It is expressedly for the Christain woman.

She brings you to focus your relationship with God who takes care of your problems and changes the heart of men. She teaches you how to respond to situations that all married women go through. Some of the chapters are hard to swallow if you're stubborn, but you must at least try to do the things in the book and you will see a better difference in your marriage. It is Love that turns away anger. I highly recommend this b Read this book with an open mind.

I highly recommend this book. I love how Nina made the chapters short and sweet. However I will say that keeping track of your progress aka journaling is a great opportunity to visual track your progress! Apr 13, Stefanie Price rated it it was amazing. This book was a game-changer for our marriage.

It is practical, helpful, insightful and so real. She has now written a book 12 Truths to Change Your Marriage. It is used in the Daughters of Sarah class.

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I truly feel my husband and I would not be married if I had not taken this class and read The Respect Dare. Sep 24, Christie Jarvis rated it really liked it. There were honestly some days that I wanted to throw this book across the room But alas, I pushed through and through tears, realized that sometimes I am not exactly respectful to my husband and that I needed to make some changes. I am working on it.

I will be reading it again to challenge myself to be the best wife God intended for me to be. And I probably will want to throw it across the room again but oh well. Dec 16, Stephanie M.

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Allen rated it it was amazing. The book is filled with stories of struggle and success, and many practical applications of respect that have dramatically impacted marriages. Give it forty days. Experience the intimacy God intended and discover what he can do in your heart and in your marriage when you choose to show respect his way. The Respect Dare is a book that has challenged me in my faith with God and in my marriage.

My husband and I were struggling in our marriage and this book showed me how to appreciate him, submit to him I have been married for 28 years and my husband and I have had our ups and downs.

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The premise of this book is a good one. My one concern though is that if a newly married or soon to be married woman Nina has more than 20 years in the communications and training industry and has coached numerous executives, managers, individuals, wives, church staffs, and pastors around the country. She is the author ofnbsp; The Respect Dare. They live near Cincinnati, Ohio. Two thousand years ago, Paul Thomas Nelson Inc Bolero Ozon.