Be the Mom: Overcome Attitude Traps and Enjoy Your Kids (Focus on the Family Books)

Oct 10, Bluerose's Heart rated it really liked it Shelves: Be the Mom is a quick boost of encouragement for the moms out there. I really enjoyed it! The chapters are relatively quick to read through, so it's a perfect book to read here and there. It became my favorite "waiting room" read. The author and I really didn't seem to have a lot in common, but I still connected with her.

We do have the "mommy" part in common. She's writing as an experienced mom with older teen children from my understanding. The suggestions she gives are methods t Be the Mom is a quick boost of encouragement for the moms out there. The suggestions she gives are methods that worked for her.

She saw things that wasn't working for her family and she changed them. We get to see how these changes worked out. I'm not at all against moms who give suggestions as a "young" mom young children , but it is great to get advice from the "wise" moms older children.

I have quite a few quotes marked throughout this book, and I was having a hard time deciding what to share. Unfortunately, I have misplaced this book at the moment, so I can't share any of them. This book is already really late, though, so I'm going ahead with posting. The sections on being busy and comparisons are the parts that I got the most from. I see moms who are keeping busy going here and there, and I think I'm just not doing enough. Being busy doesn't automatically equal a great mom, though, and I appreciate the reminder. We're very simple around here. I'm finally realizing that it's okay that my home and family doesn't look like it came out of a Martha Stewart magazine.

It has never been spotless, and I no longer expect it to be at any point soon. It's okay that I can't cook worth anything, and that many of our meals come out of a box. I've spent so much time imagining a life of perfection that I've forgotten how to be content with what talents God has given me. I'm finally learning to do what works for us, and that's okay!

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This book helped me along with those journeys. Overall, this is a simple, down to earth book with great mommy advice. View all 8 comments. Aug 08, Naomi rated it really liked it Shelves: What joy it is to embrace the role of motherhood, free ourselves from the traps that aim to devour and devalue us, and live a momlife worthy of His calling.

This doesn't mean a momlife without challenges or mistakes, but a momlife increasingly dependent upon our heavenly Father" p. Motherhood is full of blessings and challenges. And sometimes it can seem that the challenges out "The Creator of the heavens and the earth fashioned you to be the mother of the children He has entrusted to you. And sometimes it can seem that the challenges outweigh the blessings.

Eyster takes a candid look at the most common attitude traps that moms fall prey to. Using humor and real-life examples, she helps debunk these traps and points us to the one perfect parent: She discusses seven traps: Each chapter ends with a brief quiz to see how embedded in each trap you are, as well as though provoking questions to help pull you out of that particular trap. Just glancing through the chapter list, it was easy to see a couple of particular traps that are catchy for me, but reading the entire book helped open my eyes to just how subtle some of these traps are.

I really appreciated Eyster's candidness and the encouragement that she offered.

At the end of the book, she brings it all together by providing four practical faith steps to stay in tune with God as we allow Him to equip us for the task of motherhood: I would definitely recommend this book to all moms, particularly those that are really struggling with embracing their role as mother. The set-up of the book also makes it perfect for book clubs or small groups to read together and discuss.

Overall, this was a great read! A positive review was not required and the views expressed in my review are strictly my own. Mar 11, Nancy Crawford added it. A good read for any mom during her walk with children. Aug 29, Katherine rated it really liked it Shelves: It was quite enjoyable. Written for "all moms" as claimed on page xi , we are told that this book "offers an opportunity for moms to explore the emotions that are stirred up in the daily lives of mothers.

It also reveals the traps that seek to ensnare moms along the way. You just have to have the tenacity to explore what is best for your own family and then be brave enough to make it happen. You are loved," "You are not alone," etc, etc page And while I may not believe, as the author does, in "evil," or in a devil as she speaks of on page 14 , I do agree that the "traps" the author speaks of are traps mothers need to be aware of, and work to not fall into.

Traps like seeing yourself as "just a mom" and forgetting to take time for yourself, having to have things done perfectly your way instead of using opportunities to encourage confidence in your children, seeing yourself as, or acting like, a martyr with a poor attitude, trying to be "supermom" and taking on more than you or your family can handle, comparing yourself to other mothers, not being intentional with each stage of your child's life forgetting that today matters and not being intentional with the time we have , and caring too much about what "they" say or putting the value of others above your own instincts.

The chapter that I enjoyed the most was the chapter on the "Me Mom Trap," most specifically pages and the difference between the "do it right" and "do your best" messages, offering our children opportunities to learn through trial and error and achieve a sense of accomplishment when they get it right she also stresses, on page 37, how things can be done more than one way , using situations as teaching moments, always encouraging your children, and how "teaching our children with love and understanding should be our goal.

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I would recommend this book to any mother looking for an empowering, encouraging read on motherhood. It was an enjoyable read, written in a pleasant style, and it is a quick read, too. I'd like to end this review with a quote the author used in her final chapter on page , by C. All other careers exist for one purpose only, and that is to support the ultimate career. Sep 01, Sarah rated it liked it Shelves: I was torn over how to rate this book.

Although I have tremendous respect for the author and I think that her aims are admirable she just doesn't speak my language. I feel a little guilty lowering my rating for purely personal reasons- otherwise this may have gotten a 2 star. Plus, I have this I was torn over how to rate this book.

Plus, I have this weird aversion to people quoting from new revisions of the Bible.

I have a special love for the King James version and I know I shouldn't let this bother me- but it just does. The words have lost so much of their meaning, cadence and power in these versions, for me. I know there are many people who struggle with the wordiness of the KJV but I just love it. In each chapter Eyster focuses on a new "mom trap". I found that many of them applied to me not at all or just a smidgeon and two of them are traps that I do need to work on a bit.

However, the "traps" that I need to work on I was fully aware of so all that this book really did for me was to remind me that I need to "just do it". I DO like that the author gives all of her proceeds from this book to a Christian camp and that she wrote it out of love for others and her daughter. Jul 22, Margaret Chind rated it really liked it Recommended to Margaret by: In the past year, I've gotten quite a few Christian non-fiction titles that have found a deep way into my heart. Much in the way that Ann Voskamp is poetic, Tracey Lanter Eyster is conversational and down to heart, a real mom talking to this mama from her words and experience.

So why did it take me so long to read this book? I mean it is not even two hundred pages. I needed to wade in the water of these words and truly experience the knowledge this experienced mama is willing to pass on in her b In the past year, I've gotten quite a few Christian non-fiction titles that have found a deep way into my heart. I needed to wade in the water of these words and truly experience the knowledge this experienced mama is willing to pass on in her book. My kiddos are much younger than Tracey's so I haven't had the experience and this mommy business is still quite new to me.

While I'm not sure how much my future will be like hers I like listening to her stories. The best part that I'm finding in this book is the idea to relax and live in the moment. Not to get caught up filling days with this that and the other when you can just BE the mom. I received this product free for the purpose of reviewing it.

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The opinions expressed in this review are my personal, honest opinions. Your experience may vary. Please read my full disclosure policy for more details. Jul 10, IrenesBookReviews rated it it was amazing. Written with a sense of humor and thoughtful advice this is a must read for all Moms. There are different views of what makes a good Mom. The author has a great sense of humor and a great way of expressing her thoughts.

I thought the vibe of the book, although discussing n Overcome Attitude Traps and Enjoy Your Kids is the subtitle to this great book.

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The authors use of personal stories definitely helped make her ideas more affective. I also didn't love the author's super-casual, borderline sarcastic writing style. One person found this helpful. It is such a I'm still reading this book. It is such a blessing and so real.

I read it each day and go through the chapter questions. They really help me focus on me as a mother and reflect on my life changes and where my priorities are or need to be. Tracey has raised two children and has made her home and family her top priority. Tracey is the real deal! She would never call herself an expert, but her experience and the fruit in her family speaks for itself.

There are a multitude of books out there, written by women of all ages, but if you want a book written by someone who has lived it and lived it WELL, this book is the one! She doesn't idealize motherhood, but she does make you want to see it in the right perspective!! I will hand this book out to any young mom that I come in contact with!!

Gina Smith Keepin' it Real! I would recommend it to moms, specially newly with two, that are in a funk that they want to break out of. I really enjoy reading this book It gives perfect examples of an every day life as a mom and examples on what to do with your child. You might think its not important but the book indicates otherwise.

Perfect gift for a new mom and moms all the way up through the teen years. Tracey Lanter Eyster puts her personal touch on this witty, informational and encouraging book. Perfect for Mom groups to read together in a study or book club as it has questions at the end of each chapter. I look forward to seeing more of her work in the future! I have read many parenting books and with this one I can honestly say I felt a bit inspired to be a better mom. More religious than I thought it would be. See all 48 reviews. Amazon Giveaway allows you to run promotional giveaways in order to create buzz, reward your audience, and attract new followers and customers.

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